{"1": {"fulltext": "1\\n1\\n(Boob Jorm\\nXbrfsttan etiquette\\nmi a\\nf", "height": "3443", "width": "2647", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0001.jp2"}, "2": {"fulltext": "LIBRARY OF CONGRESS.\\nChap.. ZZ... Copyright No.\\nShelf.,.HM.\\nUNITED STATES OF AMERICA.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0002.jp2"}, "3": {"fulltext": "", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0003.jp2"}, "4": {"fulltext": "", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0004.jp2"}, "5": {"fulltext": "", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0005.jp2"}, "6": {"fulltext": "", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0006.jp2"}, "7": {"fulltext": "wvuu jjuiiii\\nant\\nChristian jetlquette\\nMRS. S. M. I. HENRY\\nREVIEW AND HERALD PUB. CO.\\nBattle Creek, Mich.\\nChicago, III., Toronto, Ont., Atlanta, Ga.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0007.jp2"}, "8": {"fulltext": "TWO COPIES RECEIVED,\\nLibrary of Coi8grei%\\nOfflae o f xtiQ\\nFEB 12 1900\\niiegisUr of Copyright*\\n55899\\nCopyright, 1900, by\\nMRS. S. M. I. HENRY.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0008.jp2"}, "9": {"fulltext": "preface\\nLet no one who shall do me the honor to\\nread this little book suppose that I have been\\nlaying down a lot of rules. The most\\nthat I have attempted is to point out some\\nof those regulations which the experiences of\\nthoughtful men and women of the world have\\nfound necessary to good social order, as well\\nas some of those things that a long expe-\\nrience in work for the unfortunate has dis-\\ncovered as requisite to the prevention of\\nscandals and consequent ostracism.\\nTo have seen conscientious young men\\nand women struggling against the awful cur-\\nrent of popular reproach because of certain\\nthings in conduct which, while innocent to\\nthem, have inevitably aroused suspicion in\\na suspicious world, is to at least wish to help\\nthose who have asked help, or who are will-\\ning to receive it, to the end that they may\\niii", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0009.jp2"}, "10": {"fulltext": "preface\\niv\\nacquire that sort of knowledge which shall\\nenable them to avoid such peril and con-\\ntempt.\\nThe questions which appear in these pages\\nare bona fide questions, written and sent to\\nme by those who asked them for themselves\\nor others. The positions taken are all based\\non what I believe to be principles which\\nmust lie at the foundation of any social life\\nthat would keep itself unspotted from the\\nworld, and which can be used as a testimony\\nto the gospel in the sight of a wicked and\\nuntoward generation.\\nI have not written for the world. Many\\nwriters have done that. Nor have I written\\nfor the nominal Christian; but for those who\\nare earnestly looking for the best means of\\nserving God and humanity, while they are\\nalso looking for that blessed hope, the glo-\\nrious appearing of our Lord.\\nS. M. L Henry.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0010.jp2"}, "11": {"fulltext": "(Boob jform*\\nL\\n/^OOD FORM is especially a society\\nphrase, but it is full of meaning, such\\nas has a direct bearing on even the life and\\nwalk of a missionary. It is of sufficient im-\\nportance to engage the attention of any who\\nwould become cultured, and is practical and\\nsimple enough to become a subject of study\\nin the most common, isolated home, in which\\nchildren are growing up.\\nIt is in good and bad form that is found\\na large share of all that difference which\\ndistinguishes the lady or gentleman from\\nthe slattern and the boor and in the con-\\nsideration given to this question of manners\\nit is once again true that the children of\\nthis world are wiser than the children of\\nlight. Luke 16 8.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0011.jp2"}, "12": {"fulltext": "(Boob jform.\\n4\\nOne of the first efforts that men or women\\nwill make if they have an ax to grind, or\\nsomething to borrow, will be to appear\\nwell. If they have anything to push, an\\nadvantage to secure, which makes it neces-\\nsary that some influential people shall be\\nwon over to some certain way of think-\\ning, they will study every movement, turn,\\nand word; learn tact, self-control, or any-\\nthing else by which they can hope to succeed.\\nMany a man has practised facial expres-\\nsion for hours before a mirror, not for amuse-\\nment, but for Justness; to the end that he\\nmight tone down or eradicate certain lines\\nwhich would make an unfavorable impres-\\nsion upon those whom he met, and has care-\\nfully cultivated in their place those that would\\nbe sure to give him a better introduction\\namong those whom he intended to use to\\nhis own profit or pleasure. This is con-\\nstantly done in the interests of self, and has\\noften resulted in forwarding those mercenary", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0012.jp2"}, "13": {"fulltext": "s\\n3oo jform*\\nand sometimes criminal ends for which it\\nwas designed.\\nFor the same purpose men learn grace of\\ncarriage, how to enter and leave a room,\\nhow to moderate every tone and practise\\nlaboriously in private, to fix as habit any-\\nthing which they believe to be desirable, and\\neradicate anything that would be a hindrance,\\nso that they may never be taken off guard\\nby any rush of feeling, and so jeopardize\\nthe selfish interests which are at stake.\\nFor the same end little children are put\\ninto training of the most exacting sort, and\\ngrow up almost perfect copies of some great\\nmaster in certain forms which, while in them-\\nselves empty, yet are like buckets, capable of\\nholding anything. And until Christians are\\nwilling to labor as faithfully to become win-\\nsome themselves, and train their children to\\ndo the best of all work in the best of all\\nforms, they have not yet come to love the\\ntruth as the world loves self,", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0013.jp2"}, "14": {"fulltext": "5oo tfotm.\\n6\\nThe truth is to be carried to all people,\\nhigh and low. A boor, who loves the truth,\\nand who is filled with the Holy Spirit, may\\ndo a good work in some lines. If he has\\nhad no opportunities to know how to carry\\nhimself among men, except such knowledge\\nas comes by being a Christian, God will\\nkeep him where he can be used, and will use\\nhim to his glory, and give him sheaves to\\nbring home at last.\\nBe a Christian is an easy answer to\\nthe question, How shall I conduct myself\\nin such and such a case? But a man may\\nbe a Christian, and yet, for the lack of some\\nspecific instruction in certain forms of pro-\\ncedure, perpetrate a blunder which will\\nbring the laugh from the profane whom he\\nwished to arouse to sober thought or make\\na mistake, such as will carry and widely\\nscatter a serious misunderstanding by which\\nChrist will be reproached and his work\\nhindered.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0014.jp2"}, "15": {"fulltext": "7\\n5oo jform.\\nI am confident that in every home among\\nall good Christian people there is a genuine\\ndesire to attain to the best training in every-\\nthing that will make this best of all work go\\nswiftly to the ends of the earth but I am\\nalso sure that many have failed to appreciate\\nthat the cause has a right to be carried\\nby the most perfect methods to which it is\\npossible to attain. The truth is worthy of\\nthe best of all good form in home, church,\\nand social life. Good form does not con-\\nsist so much in putting on, as in putting off\\nkeeping off those things in deportment,\\nspeech, and association which are espe-\\ncially ungraceful, unwinsome, incorrect, and\\nimproper.\\nSocial good form, although it seems to be\\nof the world, worldly, represents just what\\nChrist would do if he were living among\\nmen and women in ordinary social relations.\\nThe world has taken the best that worldly\\nwisdom can comprehend of the Christ-life,", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0015.jp2"}, "16": {"fulltext": "5oo tfovm.\\n8\\nand carefully embodied it in a certain code\\nto which it professes to hold itself; to which\\nit does hold itself in public, whatever it may\\ndo behind the scenes.\\nIt is manifestly true that the man who has\\nthe mind of Christ ought to grow, apple-tree\\nfashion, as much of courtesy, gentleness,\\nand all that goes to make an agreeable ap-\\npearance, as the world can possibly buy in\\nthe market of good manners, tie on and wear,\\nChristmas-tree fashion.\\nIt is by his first appearance that the col-\\nporteur will open or close a door to the truth\\nwhich he carries in a book, or in samples of\\nhealth food. His manner in the homes\\nwhere he is entertained, in public, on the\\ntrain, the street, at camp-meeting, or on the\\nplatform, will close or open the hearts of\\neven the hungry to the spiritual food which\\nthe minister is sent forth to serve in the\\nMaster s name. The manner of those who\\noccupy the field will play no insignificant", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0016.jp2"}, "17": {"fulltext": "9\\n\u00c2\u00a9oo5 tfovtn.\\npart in the work of building up the school,\\nthe college, the mission, and in reaching the\\nuttermost parts with the gospel; and since\\nthe children now under training in the homes\\nof Christian workers must have a share in\\nthe work of God in this time when it means\\nmore than it ever did for the servants of God\\nto carry weights and hindrances, it seems a\\ngood thing to take up the consideration of\\nwhat constitutes Good Form, or practical\\nChristian conduct.\\nI have had my attention called to this\\nsubject by questions from young people, as\\nwell as parents; and this message concerning\\nhow to meet people and handle the things of\\nthis mundane sphere is to both parent and\\nchild, boys, girls, and young people, who\\nare preparing for earnest work in the world.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0017.jp2"}, "18": {"fulltext": "n.\\nSocial life is important to the young; it\\ncan not be safely ignored in school life,\\ntherefore I must have these interests in mind\\nas I write, and shall hope to help both the\\nanxious parent and the thoughtful young\\nstudent who would know how to do the right\\nthing at all times.\\nIt is, however, a great deal more impor-\\ntant to be than to do\\\\ for it is out of the\\nbeing that the doing must come. The point\\nrequiring the most anxious consideration is\\nthat we may learn to truly know and love\\nthe principle upon which safe conduct\\ndepends.\\nHe who loves purity for its own sake\\nwho hates impurity because of its vileness,\\ninstead of for the painful consequences which\\nfollow its practise, will never go very far\\nastray from those manners which are of good\\nreport in any society on earth. He will", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0018.jp2"}, "19": {"fulltext": "II\\nSooD jform\\ninstinctively avoid the appearance of evil as\\nfar as he knows how evil appears.\\nThere are a few principles which are\\nalways a safeguard and defense to those who\\nwill be controlled by them, which if woven\\ninto familiar thought will render correctness\\nin the details of conduct spontaneous and\\ninevitable. And yet circumstances may\\nmodify this fact. It is sometimes slow work\\nto get hold of a principle; and some specific\\nteaching as to just what to do, and what not\\nto do, will often be a great help to even\\nthose who are pure of heart, and have a\\nmind to avoid the appearance of evil.\\nEvery detail of life must take note of the\\nfact that the human unit called man was\\ncreated male and female, and must begin his\\nearthly career as boy and girl, each at best\\nbut a half of this unit. This, with many\\ncorrelated facts, must be kept before us in\\nthe process of training. Up to a certain\\nperiod boys and girls can play together and", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0019.jp2"}, "20": {"fulltext": "(Soo jform.\\n12\\nassociate with perfect unconsciousness of any\\ndifference between them, but the careful\\nparent and teacher must be alert with refer-\\nence to the time when nature awakens, after\\nwhich their association can only be safely\\non two lines, Christian work and general\\ngood fellowship; and these always under the\\nchaperonage of some reliable and mature\\nwoman. This is especially necessary in all\\nlines of work to which Christian young peo-\\nple in these days of special activity among\\nthe youth would be urged, such as missionary\\nmeetings, cottage meetings, Sabbath-school,\\nhouse-to-house visiting. Without such chap-\\neronage, boys and girls, young men and\\nyoung women, should never go together, even\\nin Christian work; but girls by themselves,\\nand boys by themselves.\\nThis is made necessary by the fact that\\nnature has been perverted, that the enemy\\nof all purity has taken possession 6f every\\navenue of thought, even from the cradle,", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0020.jp2"}, "21": {"fulltext": "13\\n6oo jform\\nand has filled the mind of childhood with\\nunprofitable imaginings, for which the only\\ncure is the knowledge of the truth pure and\\nsimple, adapted to their comprehension, and\\nsuch opportunities for association as shall\\nmake them mutual helps without stimulating\\nthat self-consciousness that leads to curiosity\\nand evil suggestion.\\nAny allusion which would give the chil-\\ndren an idea of the anxious thoughts which\\nyou entertain for them should be studiously\\navoided. Teach and practise them in all\\nwhich constitutes true decorum while they\\nare still too young to understand its signifi-\\ncance and necessity, so that when the time\\ncomes that the youth shall need good\\nform habits for the protection of a good\\nname, he will have them already, as a part\\nof that second nature which good breeding\\nproduces. The first teaching will naturally\\napply without any reference to sex differ-\\nences, to that conduct which should prevail", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0021.jp2"}, "22": {"fulltext": "Boo jform* i*\\nbetween a company of girls and boys each\\nin companies by themselves.\\nFirst, as to manners in public. Boys and\\ngirls should grow up with the idea that it is\\na great deal nicer for girls to keep each\\nother company, and for boys to do the\\nsame, than for boys and girls to go together.\\nTeach your boy to protect the girls of his\\nacquaintance from any annoyance which his\\npresence anywhere could produce. Make\\nhim understand that carefulness in this re-\\ngard is the beginning of genuine manliness.\\nTeach both boys and girls to be reserved\\nand modest in their deportment toward all\\nother boys and girls alike, boys toward boys,\\nand girls toward girls. That boisterous fa-\\nmiliarity among boys together is so unbe-\\ncoming as always to breed contempt.\\nBy this I would not have my readers infer\\nthat good form in behavior must in the least\\ninterfere with the good times that chil-\\ndren and youth ought to enjoy. It does not", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0022.jp2"}, "23": {"fulltext": "*5\\n3oot form\\nprevent that happy freedom which can alone\\nmake real play possible. Running, jump-\\ning, climbing trees, shouting, hallooing, can\\nall be done without any violation of a single\\nprinciple of good form as applied to childhood\\nlife. The trouble is that many parents and\\nteachers have the idea that any form of con-\\nduct to be good must be grown-up and\\ngray-headed, whereas one of the very worst\\nof bad forms is for a child to appear old.\\nGood form, the genuine sort, like every other\\ngood thing, will admit of any conduct which\\nwill promote strength of body, soul, and\\nspirit. Real strength, which must always in-\\nclude the whole being, is perfectly safe, and\\na perpetual source of joy in the Holy Guest.\\nMany popular plays and games, however, are\\nso far removed from every principle which\\nshould control action and association, that\\nthey can not be indulged without rudeness,\\nbrutality, and in many cases that sort of\\nfamiliarity which leads to immorality, and", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0023.jp2"}, "24": {"fulltext": "(Boofc jForm, 16\\nshould be thrown into the heap with all\\nother bad manners.\\nIt is bad form for two, three, or more per-\\nsons to walk in an irregular huddle on the\\nstreet, as children sometimes do, going back-\\nward facing the rear of the procession in or-\\nder that conversation may be carried on.\\nEven young children should be taught that\\nthe running, leaping, jumping, loud talking\\nand laughter, which would be all right in the\\nback yard, on some playground, or in the\\nopen country, is never to be indulged on the\\npublic street; that the moment the street is\\nreached the deportment should become quiet,\\nand have thoughtful reference to the comfort\\nof the public.\\nThey should understand the obvious rea-\\nsons for this: A running child is practically\\na blind and deaf one he must have plenty\\nof room, or he will be almost sure to collide\\nwith something or somebody; in town will\\nbe in danger of teams or cars. The rule for", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0024.jp2"}, "25": {"fulltext": "17\\n3oo jform\\nthe street should be Steady, quiet, careful,\\neyes to the front, no loud talking or laugh-\\ning, no play, no swapping of knives, no\\nreading, no chewing or eating, no clearing\\nthe throat or spitting if it can possibly be\\navoided. If this last is impossible, let it\\nbe done in the most unobtrusive manner,\\nbehind a kerchief in short, let nothing be\\ndone which would inevitably draw the atten-\\ntion of passers-by, causing special notice\\nand comment.\\nThe craze for notoriety manifests itself in\\na thousand repulsive forms of street beha-\\nvior, through which the grossest temptations\\nattack the untaught and careless and those\\nparents who would protect their children\\nfrom many nameless dangers must teach\\nthem good form as applied to street life.\\nNowhere does good breeding reveal itself\\nmore quickly than in the qu i# et, unobtrusive\\nI-am-minding-my-own-business air of the\\ngirl or boy, who, with an armful of books", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0025.jp2"}, "26": {"fulltext": "5oo jform. is\\nheld closely, looking neither to the right nor\\nto the left, clips to and from school or if\\nwalking and talking together by twos, it is\\nwith steady carriage and voices so modulated\\nthat no passer-by will overhear a word, nor\\nthink of being jostled.\\nChildren should be taught by both word\\nand example that when they are about to\\nmeet any person on the street they should\\nfall back into single file at the right, while\\nstill far enough distant as to obviate all\\ndanger of interference. Who has not found\\nhimself caught on the street in a mob of\\nschoolgirls or boys, often both together, who\\nneedlessly monopolize the walk, as with loud\\ntalking, wrangling, jesting, jaws working at\\nboth words and gum, they publish as upon\\nthe housetop the utter lack of good form in\\nthe homes from which they have come\\nThe first blame for this disgusting spectacle\\nalways falls upon the children but in truth\\nit all belongs to the homes out of which they", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0026.jp2"}, "27": {"fulltext": "*9\\n5ooD jform\\nhave tumbled pell-mell without that instruc-\\ntion and those fixed habits which would have\\ninsured decorum and decency.\\nEvery child should be taught to give cour-\\nteous recognition to acquaintances. The\\nboys should lift the cap to each other as well\\nas to their elders, always to father and\\nmother, if they chance to meet them on the\\nstreet and the girls by some modest femi-\\nnine salute of bow or word. But some one\\nmay object that it seems far-fetched to\\ntrain boys to this formal mannerism. To\\nwhich I reply in the old adage that the boy\\nis father of the man. The man in every\\nrelation in life will follow the lead of boyish\\nhabits unless indeed in the interests of some\\ngreat conviction or self-interest he makes\\nall things new. This can be done, but even\\nthen the traces of early habits will often\\nremain to bring shame and confusion at\\nsome critical point when pleasure or profit\\nare at stake,", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0027.jp2"}, "28": {"fulltext": "in.\\nThe social life of boys and girls shouldbe\\nrecognized and provided for as a department\\nof the school in which they shall become\\neducated in those things which make for\\nsocial righteousness and purity later on. As\\nboys treat each other, they will, as a rule,\\ntreat each other as men. As boys and girls\\nbehave toward each other, so will they as a\\nrule behave as men and women. Courtesy\\nis necessary to the highest degree of success\\nin any enterprise. The boy who is habitu-\\nally courteous toward other boys will be suc-\\ncessful in winning his way as a man among\\nmen with any important message with which\\nhe may be commissioned; and if he is so\\ninstructed that he is gentle, considerate, and\\ntrue to his mother, sisters, and girl associates,\\nhe will be a safe friend as a man, a represen-\\ntative of Christ to his own wife and children,\\nand help to make that home which must\\nstand as a witness for God in the last days.\\n29", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0028.jp2"}, "29": {"fulltext": "2i 5oo jform\\nThe children in whose interests I am wri-\\nting must be in a peculiar sense messengers\\nof light to the world. They will be on the\\nfield of action in the very last scenes of the\\nearth s history, when souls must be snatched\\nby a power of which we have little com-\\nprehension the power to win quickly; the\\npower to reveal the truth as in a flash of\\nlight, so that it will be recognized at sight\\nby the bewildered, desperate soul that has\\nawakened at the last moment to its peril and\\nprivilege, and with scant space for repent-\\nance and cleansing, cries out for help; and\\nthe Holy Spirit must find somewhere those\\nwhom he can train and use for the service\\nwhich in those days must be done to reach\\nevery creature, high as well as low, with\\nthe gospel.\\nThe truth is worthy of the best possible\\ninvestment. Its messengers should be free\\nfrom every offensive habit, custom, and\\nmanner thoroughly equipped in all that is", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0029.jp2"}, "30": {"fulltext": "Soo jform* 22\\nmost graceful, most scholarly, as genuine\\nChristian scholarship goes most refined,\\nmost chaste, and agreeable in both public\\nand private intercourse. They should be\\nthe most suitably, and that means the most\\nsimply and tastefully, dressed.\\nThe theory of the world considers as\\ngood form that each individual should\\ndress according to the class which he repre-\\nsents and the Christian who conscientiously\\nand consistently dresses as his name Chris-\\ntian would indicate that he should dress,\\nwill be respected by even the frivolous but-\\nterfly of fashion, and will stand a good\\nchance of a hearing by that same butterfly,\\neven in the most solemn message, provided\\nit is accompanied with the simple, easy\\ncourtesy of good breeding, such as can not\\nbe suddenly assumed for effect, but which\\nis the result of life-long training. There are\\nhonest souls among so-called social but-\\nterflies, and some workers must be trained", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0030.jp2"}, "31": {"fulltext": "23\\nSoo jform\\nto go out into the highways where they flit\\naway their hopeless lives, as well as into the\\nbyways and hedges, where social wrecks are\\nhuddled in darkness and desolation.\\nThe men and women who must do this\\nwork are now boys and girls in our homes\\nor schools, and very much which shall de-\\ntermine the scope of their influence depends\\nupon what the Spirit of God shall find avail-\\nable in them for use. A truly well-trained,\\ncourteous man or woman can be used any-\\nwhere, among any people; while the uncouth\\nand untrained must be kept in a limited\\nsphere. The truly cultured man or woman\\nwhose every gift and grace has been sancti-\\nfied and consecrated, will be more sure to\\nknow what to do in the homes of the wretched\\nand the haunts of vice for the alleviation of\\ndistress and the saving of a soul than those\\nwho have never thought it worth while to\\ncultivate winsome qualities.\\nGod has so arranged human life and rela", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0031.jp2"}, "32": {"fulltext": "(BooO jform. 24\\ntions that even the most aristocratic and\\nexclusive must take note of, and plan for do-\\ning, the same every-day things that are alike\\ncommon to all; and the only question of\\ndeportment which can ever come between\\nthe uncouth and the refined, concerns the\\nmethods of doing these same most common\\nthings.\\nThe mother in the humblest home, with\\nthe most meager opportunities, if she has a\\nhigh enough appreciation of the mission to\\nwhich her child is called as a representative\\nof the precious faith of Jesus, can, in\\nhim, place at the disposal of the Holy Spirit\\nsuch graces of gentleness, such a beauty of\\nholiness, such winsome kindliness, such tact\\nand address, as shall open the way for anything\\nwhich he has to bring. But to do this she\\nmust begin with the child in his relation to\\nthe other children of his own age with whom\\nhe stands on an equal footing. To treat\\nwith deference and politeness only those", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0032.jp2"}, "33": {"fulltext": "25\\n(5ooO jForm*\\nwho because of age or position are recog-\\nnized as his superiors, would train the child\\nto sychophancy.\\nThe man who can lead other men, except by\\nsome appeal to selfish or brutal passion, is very\\nhard to find. A i man s way has passed into\\nproverb, and stands for heedlessness as re-\\ngards his treatment of his equals. His natural\\nsense of pity will make him kind to the help-\\nless, provided he can afford it; he will be\\nrespectful to the respectable because his own\\nrespectability requires it; and his general\\ninterest will lead him to court those who are\\nin a position to bestow favors; but to be all\\nthat a consecrated Christian companion\\nmight be to those who are on the same plane\\nwith himself, or who are so outlawed by\\npublic sentiment that no accuser but con-\\nscience would arise against him for any\\nwrong done to them, is the point of\\nfailure in the association of men with men\\nand women, and is the result of an almost", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0033.jp2"}, "34": {"fulltext": "6oo\u00c2\u00a3 jForm.\\nuniversal idea that boys don t need to be\\nso very polite to each other, nor so very\\nparticular as to just how they talk when\\nalone among themselves, and that the silly\\ngirl or fallen among women is legitimate\\nprey for any man.\\nIt is by behavior that men and women\\nare protected from, or exposed to, especial\\nand peculiar temptations, as well as made\\nmore or less effective in truth-teaching and\\nsoul-winning.\\nIt may seem ridiculous to make the use\\nof a handkerchief the subject of grave con-\\nsideration, but it is a terrible fact that this\\nlittle scrap of linen has become more dan-\\ngerous than dynamite to the thoughtless girl\\nin her teens who, for lack of proper teach-\\ning, picks up the little tricks of street flirta-\\ntion, which have so defiled it that it has\\nbecome almost indecent to handle it outside\\nthe seclusion of one s own room.\\nLet a bright-faced girl take her handker-", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0034.jp2"}, "35": {"fulltext": "27\\n6oo6 Jfotm.\\nchief in hand on the street of even a small\\ncountry village, and she will immediately be-\\ncome the center of attraction to every lewd\\nfellow who haunts public places, until he has\\nfound out what she intends to do with it\\nand the code of signals for which it is em-\\nployed is of such a character that the most\\ninnocent may be charged with a lewd invita-\\ntion by what might seem to be its necessary\\nuse.\\nThe same is true concerning the sound\\nmade by clearing the throat and nasal pas-\\nsages, and coughing. These are all used as\\nsignals of vice and many a giddy, but inno-\\ncent girl has found herself in -situations of\\ngreat humiliation and danger, simply because\\nshe had not been forearmed with a little\\nknowledge as to proper conduct in these\\nmatters.\\nGood form requires that the handkerchief\\nbe carried in the pocket out of sight never\\nbrought out in public excepting in a case of", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0035.jp2"}, "36": {"fulltext": "SooJ tfovm. 28\\nnecessity, and then used as unobtrusively\\nas possible. The importance of this matter\\nis sufficient to warrant repetition even to line\\nupon line and precept upon precept.\\nThose who will be able to do the best\\nservice in the closing work of the world s\\nhistory, to win the richest trophies for our\\ncoming King, will be those who, together\\nwith the commandments of God and the\\nfaith of Jesus, and the fulness of the Holy\\nSpirit, will know and observe in deportment\\nthat which the world recognizes as good\\nform.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0036.jp2"}, "37": {"fulltext": "IV.\\nThe whole social problem, as regards pure\\nliving, home-making, and domestic com-\\nfort, depends on how young people, as such,\\nshall deport themselves toward each other.\\nSome good people have seemed to sup-\\npose that, provided the children were con-\\nverted, everything else would take care of\\nitself, so that any specific instruction in\\nmanners must be superfluous, if not fool-\\nish. This is a fallacy of the same order as\\nthat which assumes that if a man is called of\\nGod to preach the gospel he needs no edu-\\ncation or preparation, only to stand up,\\nopen his mouth, and give his vocal organs a\\nchance to play, leaving God to do the rest;\\nwhen the fact is that God will make good\\nuse of every faculty, and all the culture that\\nis provided for him, but of no more. The\\nname Christian should stand for the very\\nbest that is possible in education. Many a\\n29", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0037.jp2"}, "38": {"fulltext": "(Boob jform, 30\\nChristian man has brought reproach on\\nthe name of Christ, not because his heart\\nwas bad, but because his manners were.\\nMany a woman of pure purpose, who would\\nnot have committed a gross act for the\\nworld, has alienated her husband, made her\\nneighbors suspicious, and lost her good\\nname, just because she did not know what\\nthings were of good report, and therefore\\nwhat must be of evil report. And these\\ndisasters resulted from lack of proper train-\\ning in the early home on some points that\\nseem too trivial to think about twice, and\\nwhich, doubtless, many will feel have no\\nplace in a dignified discussion anywhere.\\nAnd yet since these small things concern so\\nmuch of weal or woe, so much of honor or\\nshame, we may well afford to take time for\\ntheir consideration.\\nOne of the things most commonly seen,\\nand about which all the world smiles, is a\\nboy and girl standing on opposite sides of", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0038.jp2"}, "39": {"fulltext": "3i\\n5oo5 jform\\nthe gate which opens toward her home.\\nThey have walked from school or church to-\\ngether, she has entered and closed the gate,\\nand paused a moment for another word; he\\nhas taken this as an invitation to linger, and\\nso they stand laughingly or seriously chat-\\nting, sometimes long after dark. The world\\ncalls it coquetry, but the young people do\\nnot mean it as such; to them it is probably\\nfar removed from every evil thought. They\\nare innocent and honest; but you can not\\nmake the world, that is looking for evil, be-\\nlieve that they are not consciously flirting.\\nIt will estimate them accordingly, and soon\\nbegin to say, That girl knows quite as much\\nas she ought to and the good Chris-\\ntian people of the community will grow\\nafraid of her as an associate for their daugh-\\nters, even if those same daughters do the\\nsame thing.\\nThese children have seen older young\\npeople, perhaps mother and the minister,", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0039.jp2"}, "40": {"fulltext": "(5oo5 jform. 32\\nstand and talk and laugh in the same way.\\nSome may ask, Well, why not? Be-\\ncause it is not good form, because a bad\\nsocial savor attaches to it, because, no mat-\\nter who does it, unless they are very aged,\\nor are, like Caesar s wife, absolutely above\\nsuspicion (and who can venture to assume\\nsuch a thing for himself), they will lose in\\ndignity, suffer in reputation, become the\\nbutt of some sly joke from the class of peo-\\nple who need the help that can only be\\ngiven by men and women who do not al-\\nlow their good to be evil spoken of.\\nIf children and young people form the\\nhabit of stopping to talk at the gate, they\\nwill do it as men and women; and by doing\\nit, draw the evil eye, and invite gossip.\\nTeach your boy and girl that good form re-\\nquires that when they arrive at the gate, if\\nthey wish to continue the conversation,\\nboth should go on into the house together;\\nor that, after he has opened the gate and", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0040.jp2"}, "41": {"fulltext": "33\\n3oo0 jfotm.\\nclosed it after her, she should promptly say\\nGood morning, or Good evening, and\\nhe should as promptly lift his hat, and walk\\naway. If they enter the house together,\\ngood form requires that he, if he be young\\nor old, should receive a family greeting,\\nand that the members of the family shall be\\nfree to come to the parlor or sitting-room to\\nwhich he has been taken, to remain and\\nshare in the conversation if they wish, until\\nthe call is ended.\\nTwo young people should never suppose\\nthat they must sit in a parlor with closed\\ndoors that father, mother, and every one\\nelse must be kept out of the way because\\nNellie s friend (never call him a beau) has\\ncome to spend the evening. They should\\nnever consider it possible to extend that\\nevening into and past the large hours of the\\nnight. This is one of Satan s most fruitful\\nwrecking devices, of which the young peo-\\nple will never think, themselves, unless their", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0041.jp2"}, "42": {"fulltext": "(BooD jform* 34\\ntraining has tended to push them off away\\nfrom their natural social guides, and keep\\nbad social models before them.\\nWhen the boy, or young man, comes to\\nspend an evening because you have a daugh-\\nter, give him just as much of yourself as\\npossible make yourself so indispensable to\\nthe young people that they will naturally\\ncome to you wherever you prefer to sit,\\nrather than try to entertain each other with-\\nout you. This is not an unheard of thing,\\nalthough one will sometimes hear Christian\\npeople answer to this teaching as if it\\nwere very extreme indeed.\\nHow then will a young man be able to\\nsay anything special to the girl To which\\nit may be answered that if he is not able to\\nfind some way which is perfectly consistent\\nwith every principle of decorum, he is not\\nworth listening to; and if that is true of him,\\nit will be because he did not have his share\\nof the right sort of home life and training.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0042.jp2"}, "43": {"fulltext": "35\\n3oot jform.\\nIn the social world, where Good Form is as\\nbinding as the Decalogue is to the Christian,\\nfathers and mothers have made it impossible\\nfor a young woman to think of entertaining\\nher young man friend shut away alone with\\nhim. Strange to say, it has been the mod-\\nest home, the Christian parent, who has\\nallowed Satan to set this trap for unwary\\nfeet by leaving the young daughter, without\\none word of instruction, to entertain some\\nyoung man, perhaps a stranger, who passed\\nas her lover, shut away in the parlor,\\nwhile everybody was given to understand\\nthat no one must disturb the mysterious\\nsolemnities of keeping company/ even if\\nthey should continue into the small hours.\\nAnd as a result of this disregard of simple\\ngood form, which is as a fence against rec-\\nognized danger, untold sin and sorrow have\\nresulted.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0043.jp2"}, "44": {"fulltext": "The most worldly society decided long\\nago that it is very bad form for boys and\\ngirls of school age to think of lovers, of en-\\ngagements, or of marriage. Not until the\\nday of childish things is entirely passed, not\\nuntil a young man has some settled purpose\\nin life, some business or profession which\\ninsures an income, does Good Society, as\\nit is called, smile upon any serious inten-\\ntions between young people, and every ef-\\nfort is made to hold the children of the\\nsocial world to this regulation.\\nAll this is because of the fact which can\\nnot be repudiated that premature thinking\\nalong these channels is unhealthy, and dis-\\nqualifies the youth for any real earnest\\npreparation for practical life.\\nThe world theoretically considers these\\npreparatory years so important, and educa-\\ntion so vital, that with every possible device\\n36", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0044.jp2"}, "45": {"fulltext": "37\\n(5ooD jform\\nit seeks to keep the children unconscious\\nof sex, and of the burdens which this con-\\nsciousness always brings, until they have\\nattained something like maturity.\\nOf course the world fails, because it is try-\\ning to do by sheer force of human will, and\\nby human methods from outside influence,\\nthat which can only be accomplished by the\\ngrowing from within of a divinely planted\\nprinciple. But that which the world is strug-\\ngling after, that about which it has made so\\nmany laws, has written and talked so much,\\nand in which it is so often foiled, Chris-\\ntian parents ought to find practical and easy,\\nbecause of the power of the Spirit which al-\\nways accompanies every truth.\\nIt is a fact, however, that many worldly\\nhomes have succeeded at this point, because\\nthey have faithfully taught the principle, even\\nif without prayer or faith while many Chris-\\ntian homes have failed, with all their praying\\nand so-called faith, because they have ig-", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0045.jp2"}, "46": {"fulltext": "(Soofc jform. 38\\nnored the principle that marriage is for men\\nand women, not for children and that any\\nassociation which takes cognizance of sex\\nmust be for marriage only; that if it is for\\nany other object, it is coquetry, flirting, and\\nconsequently immoral.\\nThis should be so faithfully taught to the\\ngrowing child, and all words and conduct in\\nhome and Christian social life should be so\\nunder the control of this principle, and ne\\nshould be so taught those habits of social\\nintercourse which will protect him from pre-\\nmature and unhealthy thought, that he shall\\nbe able to grow up to the time of his own\\nhome-making untrammeled by the entangle-\\nments of unhallowed associations and their\\ndistracting memories.\\nHere again the boundaries of safety are\\nmarked by things which seem trivial. The\\nsocial world counts it as bad form for\\nyoung people to even shake hands upon in-\\ntroduction, because it has found out to its", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0046.jp2"}, "47": {"fulltext": "39\\n5oo5 3Form\\nshame and disgrace that there is danger in\\na hand-shake and I am free to say that this\\nsocial extreme is better than the freedom\\nwhich sometimes obtains, because by that\\nthe young people become practised in a\\nlooseness of conduct which opens the way\\nfor trouble.\\nGood form toned down from the ex-\\ntreme rigidity of the social world, so as to\\nmeet the requirements of ordinary Christian\\nintercourse, would teach that the hand-shake\\nshould be just what its name indicates a\\nclasp, a shake, and then a drop. Teach\\nyour son that he should never place any\\nlady in the embarrassing position of having\\nher hand crushed, or held one second for if\\nshe has been properly taught, she will be\\nsure that he is either ignorant, careless, or\\nungentlemanly in so doing; and if she is\\nherself ignorant and careless, if she is weak\\nenough to allow her hand to be held, she is\\nin a condition where she needs to be pro-", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0047.jp2"}, "48": {"fulltext": "5oo jForm* 40\\ntected from herself; and your son should be\\nable to be that protector.\\nTeach your daughter that if any man\\nclings to her fingers when she has given\\nhim her hand in friendly, cordial fashion, if\\nhe takes the liberty of placing his other hand\\nunder her elbow, or taking hold of her arm,\\nthat it is her privilege and duty to teach him\\nthat he has committed a breach of good\\nmanners by withdrawing her hand, forcibly\\nif she must, and stepping out of his reach.\\nAnd any young man who is worthy of her\\nfriendship will in his heart thank her for the\\nrebuke, and profit by it.\\nMany a boy who has grown up in a family\\nof sisters, and among their friends, has, in\\ngoing out into the world, had to suffer over\\nand over such tortures of chagrin and shame\\nas were almost unendurable before he could\\nlearn those little things in good form\\nwhich should have been taught him by pre-\\ncept and example in his home from child-", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0048.jp2"}, "49": {"fulltext": "4i (Boofc jform\\nhood; and for a lack of the right teaching in\\nthis hand-to-hand relation, many a boy-\\nhas been taken captive by shameless women,\\nsimply because he practised in the wider\\nand more wicked world the free habits which\\nwere common in the neighborhood life at\\nhome, which, while neither right nor safe\\nthere, were not absolutely dangerous, be-\\ncause each knew everybody, and all were\\nheld to respectability by the short rein of\\nclose social relations.\\nTeach your daughter that it is not good\\nform to allow a young man in walking\\nwith her to support her steps in any way,\\nunless she has suffered some sudden injury.\\nA sprained ankle would excuse any neces-\\nsary help until a carriage could be called\\nor, if this were out of the question, until\\nshe was taken home. If she must have\\nhelp, let her take his arm, and hold on but\\nteach your boy never to place his hand on a\\nlady s wrist, and lay her arm along his own,", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0049.jp2"}, "50": {"fulltext": "3oo jform.\\nholding her by hand and elbow. This is a\\nmost vulgar method of supporting any ex-\\ncepting one s own wife, sister, mother, or\\nsome aged woman.\\nThere is no possible reason why any\\nyoung woman, who is in health, should,\\neven after dusk, need support from any\\nman. She ought to be able to keep her\\nplace in the road or field, or on the side-\\nwalk, just as well as he can, and walk inde-\\npendently of his hand or arm. The notion\\nthat a woman must have a man s arm for\\nsupport is off the same loaf with all the other\\nnonsense which belongs to all the rest of\\nthat 1 clinging-vine theory which assumes\\nthat she is of necessity so much the weaker\\nas to need his constant attention and care,\\nespecially as long as she is young and attract-\\nive. The old and wrinkled woman can as a\\nrule take care of herself.\\nWoman has been made weaker than man\\nby the sinful habits of life to which social", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0050.jp2"}, "51": {"fulltext": "43\\n\u00c2\u00a9oo jFotm\\ncustom condemned and held her during the\\nDark Ages. This subjugation was her part\\nof the entailed curse. But from this, with\\nall its disabilities, she is to become free in\\nChrist and our daughters trained in Chris-\\ntian homes should at least be able to walk\\nanywhere that a young woman ought to go\\nwithout leaning on some man for support.\\nHow much more graceful are the movements\\nof men and women as they walk together,\\nkeeping step, but far enough apart so that\\neach is perfectly free, than when locked to-\\ngether by the arms, especially in daylight,\\non a smooth path.\\nAs age comes on, it is a beautiful thing to\\nsee a son or daughter supporting the steps\\nof father, mother, or grandparents but it is\\na pathetic scene, the beauty of which de-\\npends entirely upon its necessity. As a\\nshow of any special regard which two peo-\\nple may have for each other, it is ridiculous.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0051.jp2"}, "52": {"fulltext": "VI.\\nGood form requires that in passing\\nthrough a door or gate the younger shall\\nalways stand aside for the elder, and that\\ncare shall be taken to open and keep the\\ndoor, especially if it swings both ways, so\\nthat it shall not hit any one in coming to.\\nI was once forcibly reminded of this arti-\\ncle of the good-form code by seeing a\\nvigorous young college student rush through\\na door without any regard to an elderly\\nwoman whom he met in the passage, and\\nwhom he almost knocked oft her feet in the\\nencounter, leaving the outside door to swing\\nback against her slender hand as she caught\\nit to prevent its hitting her in the face. He\\nseemed utterly oblivious to the fact that he\\nhad met any one, and by this unconscious\\nrudeness he published abroad the fact that\\nhe had been reared in utter disregard of or-\\ndinary courtesy. This young man is trying\\n44", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0052.jp2"}, "53": {"fulltext": "45\\nBoo jform.\\nto do what is right he wishes to do a good\\nwork in the world, but he is destined to\\nfeel the handicap of bad breeding, for which\\nhe is not responsible. He will be responsi-\\nble, however, for continuance in bad form\\nfor bad breeding may be made temporary\\nin its effects by an earnest purpose to re-\\nplace it by true culture. I knew a young\\nman whose birth and surroundings in boy-\\nhood were as unpromising as could be imag-\\nined. His father was a very low, ignorant,\\ndrunken fellow, unclean and disgusting in all\\nhis habits, even when sober. His mother\\ncould neither read nor write, although she\\nwas possessed of intelligence and many\\ntrue, womanly instincts, such as made it\\npossible for the hovel in which they lived to\\nbear some semblance to a home. This boy,\\nwho was the eldest of a large family, was\\nbright enough to attract the attention of a\\ndistrict visitor, was clothed, and taken to\\nthe Sunday-school, and from thence went on", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0053.jp2"}, "54": {"fulltext": "Boo jform. 46\\nthrough a career of self-denial, self-training,\\nand culture, always seeking the best things,\\nholding every advantage gained from point\\nto point, finishing his preparatory work as\\none of the most polished and consecrated\\nyoung men of a large college circle, paying\\nhis way by skilled labor in a machine-shop\\nfor a few hours each week, while he was be-\\ning equipped for a large field of usefulness.\\nHe became especially distinguished for the\\nelegance of his deportment toward all with\\nwhom he chanced to be brought into asso-\\nciation. It was often said, He never for-\\ngets himself/ He always does the admira-\\nble thing, 99 You can depend on him to do\\nthe elegant always, and the beauty of it all\\nwas that this was a part of his Christian life.\\nHe was always wanted, but the social world\\nthat coveted him knew that he could not be\\nhad for anything that was inconsistent with\\nChrist.\\nTeach your boys and girls this principle", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0054.jp2"}, "55": {"fulltext": "47\\n(Boot) jForm.\\nof deference to their elders, by example, as\\nwell as precept. Bring them up to practise\\nit, with every other expression of cultivated\\nmanners, among themselves as brothers and\\nsisters. The elder ones should, of course,\\nnever demand deference that would be\\nthe worst of all bad forms. No true lady\\nor gentleman will ever notice any disregard\\nof personal rights. To demand this recog-\\nnition, or to manifest resentment at its omis-\\nsion, is to forfeit one s claim to it; but let\\neach be ready to recognize the right of seni-\\nority, and that it is at least graceful for\\nthe younger ones to yield place and posi-\\ntion to their elder brothers, sisters, and\\nfriends.\\nA well-bred girl or woman will open and\\nhold the door for an old, elderly, or feeble\\nman; will enter after him, and close the\\ndoor herself, although he, if he has been\\ntrained in the habits of the old school\\nof gentlemen, might insist on rendering to", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0055.jp2"}, "56": {"fulltext": "Boo jf ornu 4\\nher the courtesy due her sex, and wait for\\nher to pass, even if she should be young\\nenough to be his granddaughter but it will\\nbe a gracious act for her to unobtrusively\\nhold the humbler place which properly be-\\nlongs to her, and wait until he passes in,\\nunless, as might sometimes happen, she\\nwould be in danger of attracting undue at-\\ntention by making longer effort to thwart his\\ncourteous designs, as well as possibly cause\\ndelay to others. In such a case she should\\nquietly thank him, and pass on as quickly as\\nshe can without haste, so as to get out of\\nthe way.\\nAmong men and women of the same gen-\\neration it is expected that a man will be\\nalways ready to perform all those little chiv-\\nalric courtesies for women everywhere which\\nhe would like other men to tender to his own\\nmother, sister, wife, or special friend, and\\nno more. For a boy or man to treat any\\nother woman of the same age better than he", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0056.jp2"}, "57": {"fulltext": "49\\n3oot jform\\ntreats his own mother, sister, or wife, reveals\\nthe bad, disloyal heart which will taint the\\nvery best social good form with corrup-\\ntion. To demand from others for one s per-\\nsonal friends better treatment than he himself\\ngives, is to at once publish that he is guilty\\nof the most contemptible form of selfishness.\\nI let no man abuse my folks but my-\\nself, was the frank confession of a young\\nman who was always ready to fight any one\\nwho would treat his folks with anything\\nlike the neglect and disrespect that was his\\nconstant habit.\\nThe little attentions which should become\\nhabits in youth, because they help to that\\nappearance which will serve as adornment to\\nevery good doctrine, is the placing of the\\nchair in the most comfortable position pos-\\nsible for another; seating grandfather or\\ngrandmother, father or mother at the table;\\nthe adjustment of a light; picking up the\\narticle that has been dropped; not waiting to", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0057.jp2"}, "58": {"fulltext": "Soo\u00c2\u00a3 fform. 50\\nbe asked to help if you should see that father,\\nmother, or in fact, any one else, is looking\\nfor something which they do not seem to be\\nable to find quickly, or if they are trying to\\nsave your steps by getting along with some\\ninconvenience which you can see might, by\\na little effort on your part, be made to give\\nplace to convenience.\\nNothing is ever lost in the long run by\\nthat sort of thoughtful care for others which\\nis known as politeness. In traveling, or in\\npassing in and out of a crowded church or\\nhall, the truly well-bred man will never be\\nfound struggling in the midst of a jam to\\nget through the door into the best seat, or\\nup into the train before any one else. If he\\nshould be caught in a jam, he would not\\nelbow people right and left; but would,\\nwhile protecting his own person and those\\nwho are dependent upon him from injury,\\nfind his own chance of getting out of the\\ntight place by helping others out.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0058.jp2"}, "59": {"fulltext": "5i\\nBoo JForm\\nIn this selfish world nothing so quickly\\ntouches the popular heart as that sort of\\nChristlikeness which is recognized as polite-\\nness to strangers in public places, and as\\ncarefulness in helping the weak, and in re-\\nfraining from adding burdens to those who are\\nhard-pressed by responsibilities. The man\\nor woman who obtains control of the highest\\nquality of influence is the one who has either\\nfrom childhood been trained to think those\\nthoughts that blossom out into beautiful con-\\nsiderateness, or who has taken himself in\\nhand, and by vigorous self-training has\\npruned off the growth of selfish heedlessness,\\nand grafted in the gentler graces of the\\nSpirit.\\nOne W. C. T. U. lecturer had been pain-\\nfully impressed by the fact that baggagemen\\nhad to handle such heavy trunks. This was\\nbefore so many little wheeled contrivances\\nhad been placed at their disposal. She ac-\\ncordingly supplied herself with two small", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0059.jp2"}, "60": {"fulltext": "600 jfornu 5*\\ntrunks in place of the one large one, for no\\nother reason than to save the backs of the\\nmen. Her kind intention was kept to her-\\nself for years, and it went unrecognized at\\nits full value until at length one day she en-\\ncountered a grumpy old baggageman, who\\nseemed to have a special grudge against any\\nwoman with two checks. He was from the\\nfirst moment very uncivil, and threatened\\nher with a charge for excess of baggage.\\nShe said but little, only went quietly along\\nthe baggage-room with him, identified the\\ntwo diminutive parcels, and waited. He\\nlooked at them, then at her, colored like\\none who was ashamed of himself, and\\nsaid\\nBe them all?\\nYes, those are all.\\nWell, what made you make two of em\\n4 That is my way of helping to lift one\\nbig trunk, she said.\\nYour what?", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0060.jp2"}, "61": {"fulltext": "53\\n(Boofc jform\\nMy way of helping you to lift one big\\ntrunk.\\nIt is? Well, I never! You did it to\\nsave our backs\\nYes: I never wanted any old man or\\nboy to strain himself over a big trunk for\\nme, so I divided mine in two.\\nWell! ejaculated the grumpy old fel-\\nlow, who evidently did not know anything\\nmore to say. His whole heart had suddenly\\nmellowed, his eyes grew red, and his hands\\ntrembled as, taking off his cap, he changed\\nthose checks with the air of one who was\\nperforming an act of religion.\\nWhen he came with the two little bits of\\nmetal to the waiting passenger, still carrying\\nhis cap in his hand, and when she took them\\nwith a Thank you, and put them in her\\npurse, he looked timidly into her face as if\\nto see if he could possibly be forgiven. She\\nchose not to make much of the incident, so\\nshe did not seem to notice his perturbation,", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0061.jp2"}, "62": {"fulltext": "5oo5 JForm* 54\\nbut with a simple Good day, left the bag-\\ngage-room. But she knew very well that\\nthat old baggageman would never forget,\\nand would perhaps be kinder to all the big\\ntrunks in the future for the sake of those\\nlittle twin products of her kind intention.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0062.jp2"}, "63": {"fulltext": "How I wish I knew just how one ought\\nto behave in going into public places, meet-\\nings, and lectures/ said a young woman re-\\ncently. Others have asked similar ques-\\ntions. I have heard something like this\\nmore than once: Isn t it dreadful not to\\nknow the little things that would prevent\\nfolks from looking at you and smiling in\\nsuch a mean way? n\\nIt is dreadful/ as well as unnecessary\\nthat children should be left to grow up\\nignorant of any of those things, great or\\nsmall, which will make it possible for them\\nto enter the schoolroom, the church, the\\nhall, and move about in such a manner as\\nnot to be objects of unpleasant observation\\nto those who make politeness a profession.\\nAll that has been said about the opening\\nand closing of doors, and the rules of prece-\\ndence, are always in full force, and should\\n55", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0063.jp2"}, "64": {"fulltext": "6oot 3Form. 56\\nbecome so automatic that they will never\\nhave to be remembered. Even at home, and\\nin the small country schoolhouse place of\\nworship they should be observed, if one\\nhopes to always do the nice way.\\nIn a small congregation where every-\\nbody knows everybody, there is a great\\ntemptation to fall into very lax manners,\\nand so to cultivate habits that are hard to\\novercome, and which will cause chagrin by\\nand by to the young man or woman who\\nwants to appear well among strangers.\\nTherefore it is wise to train the children to\\nsuch deportment in the small church, or\\ncottage meeting that they shall never be in\\ndanger of bringing reproach on the home\\nwhich they have left behind them, by un-\\ncouth or disorderly behavior in any public\\nassembly.\\nAny place of worship should be entered\\nquietly, children and parents together, single\\nfile, in such order that there will be no", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0064.jp2"}, "65": {"fulltext": "57\\n0ooD tfotm.\\njostling, crowding, or changing of places.\\nThere are two ways of seating a family,\\neither of which is good form. In one case\\nthe father enters first, followed in order by\\nthe mother, the youngest child, and then the\\nothers according to age, so that the eldest\\ncomes last. At the opening to the pew, or\\nrow of chairs, the father turns, standing to\\nface the others, and waits until all have\\npassed in and are seated, when he takes his\\nplace at the entrance. This arrangement\\ngives the mother the seat in the farther cor-\\nner, with the baby beside her, while the\\neldest child is next to the father.\\nIn the other case the eldest child leads,\\nand passes into the farther end of the seat,\\nfollowed by the other children in such order\\nas to leave the baby next to the mother,\\nwho sits in the second place from the end,\\nbeside her husband.\\nSometimes when there is a large family, it\\nis necessary to separate the children by pla-", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0065.jp2"}, "66": {"fulltext": "(5oo jForm,\\ncing the mother in the midst of them be-\\ntween two restless ones. But whatever or-\\nder is necessary, let it be so matter-of-course\\nthat the coming in and seating shall be in\\nthat decorous manner which will impress the\\nchildren with the sacredness of the service\\nfor which they have come.\\nTeach the child that in entering a seat or\\nrow of chairs, good form requires that he\\nshall pass clear in to the farthest vacant\\nplace, or that if he has dropped down in the\\nend or middle of the row, and others come\\nto claim seats beyond him, he should always\\neither arise, come out and stand to allow\\nthem to pass in, or himself go on to the\\nfarthest place. Teach him, never, under\\nany circumstances, to make it necessary for\\nany one to climb over his feet and legs to\\nreach a vacant place. This is one of the\\nmost common and worst forms in which\\nbad training in deportment manifests itself.\\nAlso teach your child to refuse to climb over", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0066.jp2"}, "67": {"fulltext": "59\\n3oot jform.\\nanybody s feet. Instruct him either to wait for\\na decent chance to enter that seat or to find\\nanother. The ludicrous, not to say unbe-\\ncoming appearance of a woman who tries to\\ndrag herself over the knees of some man\\nwho remains immovable in the end of the\\nseat, or who attempts to draw himself up to\\nmake room for her to pass, is entirely\\nout of harmony with the spirit which should\\nprevail in a place of worship and the\\nyoung man coming from home with this\\nhabit, which has been formed by climbing\\nover his brothers and sisters, as well as\\nparents and guests, and letting them climb\\nover him, will be left some sad day to won-\\nder why people stop at the entrance to the\\npew where he sits, wait an instant, look at\\nhim so queerly, and then pass on, as if\\nthey were not willing to occupy the same\\nseat with him. He may think it is because\\nhe is from the country, because he is not\\nstylishly dressed, because they are very", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0067.jp2"}, "68": {"fulltext": "3oo jform. 60\\net stuck up, when it is simply because they\\ndo not choose to climb over his legs to find\\na seat.\\nBut your daughter should be so taught that\\nif she must stand in the aisle and wait for\\nsome man to get it into his head that he had\\nbetter move on, or come out so as to allow\\nher to pass, she shall do it kindly and with-\\nout contempt; for, of course, the poor fellow\\nwould do better if he only knew how.\\nTeach by precept and example that wraps\\nand rubbers should not be put on until after\\nthe benediction. If your boy should grow\\nup to the dignity of door-keeper in the\\nhouse of the Lord, he should know that\\nextra seats should never be removed from\\nthe aisles, nor doors be opened, until the\\nlast amen has been reverently uttered.\\nI believe that reverence and a proper\\nunderstanding of the meaning of the sacred\\nhours of worship would be wholesomely\\ninculcated by the practise of sitting down", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0068.jp2"}, "69": {"fulltext": "6i\\n6oob jform*\\nin silence for two or three minutes after the\\nbenediction, or long enough for any nec-\\nessary things to be done, such as the orderly\\npassing out of the congregation might re-\\nquire.\\nGood form requires that there be no loud\\ntalking, visiting, laughing, bustling, or con-\\nfusion of any sort in the breaking up of a\\ncongregation. In fact, instead of a break-\\ning up, it should be a melting away, each for\\nhimself seeking to hold in thought, and\\ncarry with him all that is possible of the\\nsubject which has been considered, avoiding\\neverything which tends to dissipate or to\\ndivert the mind from its contemplation.\\nThis is the good form which nominal\\nChristians require and teach. It is only\\nthe form, if you please, at the best dead, by\\nwhich the worldly professor seems to be try-\\ning to make up what may be lacking in real\\nspiritual worship but that very fact proves\\nit to be more than ordinarily worthy of con-", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0069.jp2"}, "70": {"fulltext": "Boo jform, 62\\nsiderationand adoption by the most spiritual.\\nUpon the same principle that our righteous-\\nness must exceed the righteousness of the\\nscribes and Pharisees should our courtesy\\nand good breeding exceed that of the most\\ncultivated people of the world.\\nThat behavior which everybody t recog-\\nnizes as becoming the house of the Lord, is\\nthat which would most certainly distinguish\\nJesus if he should come in among us and\\nthe true worshiper who will clothe himself\\nwith these gentle, Christlike graces of con-\\nduct will be no less truly a Christian, while\\nhe will certainly be more quickly recognized\\nas such.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0070.jp2"}, "71": {"fulltext": "vm.\\nOne of the evils which the good-form\\ncode is intended to control is that of the\\nmoney and gift obligations, and the part\\nthey play in the association of young people\\nand in this the burden of preserving the just\\nbalance falls upon the young woman, al-\\nthough it is equally necessary that both boys\\nand girls shall be so instructed that they\\nshall each contribute an equal share of that\\nmutual protection which good form is in-\\ntended to assure.\\nA sentiment still lingers in the social\\nworld a relic of medieval gallantry to\\nthe effect that a young man must grant any-\\nthing that a lady asks, even if, to secure it,\\nhe must risk his life, or character, or the last\\nquarter with which he was to buy his\\ndinner. This asking on her part need not\\nbe really asking it may be only suggesting,\\nor consenting to accept. She may only\\n63", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0071.jp2"}, "72": {"fulltext": "(Boob jform. 6 4\\nexclaim, Oh, would n t a sleigh-ride be just\\ntoo lovely for anything She may have\\nbecome naughty enough, without intending\\nany harm, to say this on purpose to make\\nthe boy whom she delights to tease begin\\nmentally to count over his small supply of\\nchange to see if he can possibly afford thfc\\nrig. Girls have been known to take a queer\\nsort of delight in leading a young fellow on\\nto spend his last penny, to contract a debt,\\nand go hungry, because he did not bravely\\nrefuse to take the hints that were intended\\nto lead him into expenditure such as he\\ncould not afford.\\nNo girl who has been properly trained, or\\nwho has truth and the elements of womanli-\\nness within, will ever resort to any such ex-\\npedient for her pleasure, but will keep herself\\nfrom all or any such social entanglements as\\nwould lead to anything so base. She will not\\nallow a young man to place her under obiiga\\ntion, even to the extent of car-fare.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0072.jp2"}, "73": {"fulltext": "6 5 \u00c2\u00a9oo jform*\\nTeach your growing daughter that to\\nreceive a gift of any sort from any boy or man\\noutside of the immediate circle of intimate,\\nwell-known family friends, is dangerous, if not\\ndisgraceful. Gift-giving and gift-receiving has\\ncome to be a vice. It is often intended as a\\nsly, covert method of buyingyoxi. Gifts are em-\\nployed for padlocking the mouth of those\\nwho know something which, if told, might\\nspoil some selfish or criminal plot; and this is\\nby no means confined to Tammany Hall.\\nMany a girl has kept some dangerous bit\\nof knowledge hidden in her secret thought,\\nand has been compromised by it, simply\\nbecause she had thoughtlessly accepted some\\nbauble from some man whom she supposed\\nto be a friend until, the ulterior motive being\\nrevealed, she discovered that the gift was a\\nbribe, and its possession a confession of dis-\\nhonor; and then she has found herself in a\\ngreat strait between her desire to be free and\\nyet to keep the trinket,\\ns", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0073.jp2"}, "74": {"fulltext": "3oo jform. 66\\nI had given a plain talk to a company of\\nschoolgirls; and many questions had been\\npassed up to me, in answering which I had\\ntouched some of these points. At the close\\nof the meeting, a few girls lingered to speak\\nto me, each waiting to ask some questions\\nall for herself alone. So while the others\\nwaited at a safe distance, they came, one by\\none, to whisper their perplexities in my ear.\\nHow my heart was taken captive by those\\ngirls, as with shamefacedness, with trembling\\nlips and burning cheeks, they asked me\\nquestions which were revelations both of the\\nlack of early home teaching and of the\\nmethods by which an evil world had tried to\\nmake them wise!\\nI have got afraid of a lovely necklace\\nthat my friend gave me, said one of them.\\nI ve wished a hundred times he hadn t\\ngiven it; but what in the world can I do\\nwith it?\\nSend it back to him, I said; tell him", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0074.jp2"}, "75": {"fulltext": "67 (Boot) jForm\\nyou know more now than you did when you\\naccepted it, and that you can not keep it.\\nBut that would make him furious. I\\nI dare not make him angry.\\nThen if he is so dangerous, you cer-\\ntainly dare not have him for a friend. If he\\nis worthy of your friendship, he will under-\\nstand and respect you all the more for this\\ncourse. If he is not worthy of your friend-\\nship, the sooner you find it out, the better.\\nO but and the poor girl burst\\ninto bitter weeping. Then after a few mo-\\nments, with a sudden firm resolution ex-\\npressed in her face, she dried her eyes,\\nlooked up at me, clasped my hands as if to\\nhold herself by them, and said, I ll do it,\\nI ll do it right off, and if he wants to\\nmake it hard for me, he may. I ve kept\\nhonesty God knows I have, and he knows\\nit, though he hasn t helped me, as he said he\\nwould.\\nHe promised to help you? I asked.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0075.jp2"}, "76": {"fulltext": "\u00c2\u00a9oofc jform. 68\\nYes, he did; he said I could trust him;\\nthat he y d never let a girl be compromised in\\nhis company in the world; but if I had done,\\nand gone, as he insisted, lest if I did n t he\\nwould have been provoked, I should have\\nbeen talked about long ago. I thank you so\\nmuch. I 11 get rid of it. He may have his\\nold necklace, and keep it to give to his\\nwife.\\nThat is right, I said. She is the\\nonly one who can wear or own it with\\nsafety.\\nThe young man with a good heart, who is\\nwell taught in that which is best in good form,\\nwill never offer to any lady outside his own\\nimmediate family circle any gift but flowers\\nand those in the most delicate unobtrusive\\nmanner, such as will leave her, in receiving\\nthem, absolutely free to pass them on to\\nsome hospital patient if she chooses. To\\nmake her feel, by even a look, that she is\\nunder any obligation to wear a flower be-", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0076.jp2"}, "77": {"fulltext": "6 9 5oo jform\\ncause he sends it, is to rob it of its fragrance\\nand beauty, and make it fit only for the\\ndust heap.\\nBecause of the possibilities which I have\\nsuggested, and many others to which they\\nlead, good form requires that a young lady\\nshall make it practically impossible for any\\nman not intimately related to her to spend\\nany money, or force any gifts, upon her.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0077.jp2"}, "78": {"fulltext": "IX\\nI should not do my whole duty if I did\\nnot make some reference to the holy\\nkiss/ nor yet contribute what I can to\\nenlighten the mothers who honor me by\\nreading my book concerning the universal\\nbut almost unspeakable questions that are\\nalways coming into the minds of young peo-\\nple about this sacred form of salute. You\\nmay know as much about these questions as\\nI do, perhaps more but there is many a\\nmother who never dreamed that they could\\ninfest any brain but her own, and she never\\ndared speak of such a thing.\\nOne girl came to me, her face suffused\\nwith blushes, but with a determined expres-\\nsion about her mouth, and said\\nI am going to ask you something right\\nout plain, because I think you will not\\nlaugh. I We never dared ask anybody yet,\\nbecause everybody always laughs in such a\\n70", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0078.jp2"}, "79": {"fulltext": "7i\\n\u00c2\u00a9ooD jform\\nmean way if you try to find out anything\\nabout such things and I d like to know\\nhow girls are going to know just what to do.\\nNow it s just this way I am going with\\nCharley, and he is a nice boy he wants to\\ndo what is right, I know he does, but all\\nthe boys have such queer ideas about their\\nrights. When he takes me home from\\nchurch or any place and I ve just got so\\nI dread to have him and sometimes I think\\nI won t go with another boy as long as I\\nlive, because, you see, when I go to say\\n1 Good night/ he he thinks I am so queer\\nbecause I won t let him kiss me. But I\\nwon t; I never let anybody but my own\\nfolks. I don t like it. I don t think it s\\nnice to do that way unless it s somebody\\nyou re sure of, and love very much. He\\nsays I m queer; and he gets provoked, and\\nsays it s his right, if he goes with me. Now\\nI want to know is it\\nNo; it is not, I said, positively, and", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0079.jp2"}, "80": {"fulltext": "(BooD jform\\n72\\nperhaps with a little flavor of indignation.\\nAnd no properly instructed young man\\nwould make such a claim. He is not to\\nblame, of course, I added more mildly,\\nfor he is young, too but your instincts are\\nall right they are true they are of God\\nwho made the kiss, and gave it its own place\\nin common human language. It belongs to\\nthe home, and to the purest Christian fel-\\nlowship between man and man, woman and\\nwoman to society, never\\nOh, I am so glad I asked you she\\nsaid; for I was sure my feeling about it\\nwas right. But you know one does n t like to\\noffend one s friend, and one does n t like to\\nbe called queer. But what does make boys\\nact so, good boys, too, for Charley is a\\ngood boy\\nI can not bring into the compass of these\\npages all that followed in our talk, but I\\nwould like to give the points of truth to the\\nyoung mothers for whom I write.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0080.jp2"}, "81": {"fulltext": "73 (Boot) jform.\\nThe answer to my young questioner is\\nfound in the fact that boys, as well as girls,\\nhave been left in ignorance of the principle,\\nas it is in God, of which the kiss is one\\nform of expression, and have been left to\\ncatch up its perversion as Satan has under-\\ntaken to work it into custom and habit, in\\nthe world. Anything which Satan can not\\nwholly spoil, he will counterfeit or, better\\nyet for his purpose, make so common, if\\npossible, that it shall become worthless, as\\nwas the case with silver in the days of Solo-\\nmon, when it became as the stones of the\\nstreet, and was nothing accounted of.\\nThe kiss, made common, is ridiculous.\\nTo be worth anything, it must speak exclu-\\nsively the language of a pure, changeless\\naffection, such as is represented in the love\\nof God for his children. It belongs more to\\nthe parent and child, brother and sister, than\\nto friend and companion. It is, as before\\nintimated, fraternal, not social. As soon as", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0081.jp2"}, "82": {"fulltext": "Boo5 form* 74\\nany attempt is made to drag it into society,\\nit becomes disgusting, and is always soon\\ndriven out by storms of ridicule. Therefore\\ngood form has taken it in hand, and has de-\\ntermined its sphere and office with the most\\narbitrary insistence. And again the voice\\nof society is but an echo of the voice of\\ntruth and purity. Good form has decreed\\nthat the kiss, public and indiscriminate, is\\neither an indication of unmitigated rusticity,\\nof shameless immorality, or is to be under-\\nstood as a joke, very funny on its first\\nspontaneous utterance, but very flat if re-\\npeated. Indulged in private, outside the\\nsacred boundaries of the family, between\\nmen and women, it is unpardonable, un-\\natonable, at least as far as the woman is\\nconcerned. Good form requires that every\\nyoung lady shall be so well trained that she\\nwill keep her lips absolutely untouched for\\nher husband, after the words have been\\nspoken that make him her husband.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0082.jp2"}, "83": {"fulltext": "75\\n3oo jForm*\\nThe betrothal kiss of the romancer has\\nbeen brought under suspicion in real life by\\nthe fact that betrothal is, in our day, not by\\nany means equivalent to marriage; and the\\nyoung man who knows the world, and yet\\nsufficiently regards truth and purity to seek\\nthem in a wife, would vastly prefer to find\\nhis lady friend rigidly determined to keep\\nher lips to herself as long as they two are\\nyet twain, rather than to find them always at\\neven his command.\\nIn the correspondence that has come to\\nme as a result of Studies in Home and\\nChild Life, is to be found pitiful evidence\\nof the ignorance in which young people are\\nallowed to grow up, even in a matter which\\nmay seem, like this one, trivial and border-\\ning on the ridiculous.\\nThe habit among children of kissing every-\\nbody is little short of vicious. Kissing\\ngames of every description are considered\\nvulgar, anywhere outside the immediate", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0083.jp2"}, "84": {"fulltext": "3oot jfornu 76\\nfamily circle, and even then, because of the\\ntrend of habit, they are not good form.\\nThere is great possibility of infection in\\nthe kiss. The remains of old teeth, the\\nbreath and lips of those who are in any wise\\ndiseased, make kissing dangerous. It is\\nwell-nigh impossible to find a clean, sweet\\nmouth in these days of human degeneracy;\\nand because of these facts the little children\\nare exposed to every malignant disorder that\\nis afloat, and many that are hidden deep in\\nthe foul cisterns of the broken-down body\\nof grandparents, father, mother, and the\\nstrangers who straggle in and use their\\nrights on the freely rendered lips of the\\nlittle innocents.\\nThe warnings of science, of which so many\\nmake light, are timely, and should be religi-\\nously regarded as the authority of God by\\nevery one who does not know within himself\\nthat he has so faithfully brought his whole\\nbeing into conformity with every law of life", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0084.jp2"}, "85": {"fulltext": "77 5oo dform.\\nand health that he is clean through and\\nthrough, so that the sensitive lips of his\\nbabe can come to his with the same certainty\\nof a blessing in the caress that the bee has\\nwhen he goes to the white clover of the\\nmeadow.\\nHe, and he only, who has brought himself\\nfully into harmony with both the letter and\\nthe spirit of Isaiah fifty-eight may freely\\ngive his lips to his child, out of which to\\ndrink his fill of love. And the home that is\\nbrought into this beautiful accord with\\nChrist may be as the garden of the Lord,\\nfrom which all lips shall, with every caress,\\ngather that word of life that is sweeter than\\nhoney.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0085.jp2"}, "86": {"fulltext": "X.\\nThe time is at hand when the truth must\\nbe taken into every lane and walk of life\\ninto king s palaces, into halls of learning,\\ninto banquet rooms, and into homes of re-\\nfinement and culture, as well as to the\\nhaunts of poverty and crime; for the whole\\nearth must be filled with the knowledge of\\nthe Lord. No soul must be left to arise in\\nthe second resurrection and say, I did not\\nknow the way of life, or I would not have\\nbeen here. There are being prepared in all\\nChristian homes those who shall become the\\nmessengers of this gospel of the kingdom to\\nevery rank, grade, and condition among\\nmen.\\nThis is a consideration for every Christian\\nmother and father. As among the children\\nof Israel every maiden held in her heart the\\nsecret hope that she might be the mother of\\nthe promised seed of David, so now, how-\\n78", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0086.jp2"}, "87": {"fulltext": "79\\n6oo JForm\\never humble and far away from every center\\nof influence your home may be, however\\nmeager its furnishing, however much you\\nmay seem to lack incentive to noble effort,\\nthere should be inspiration in the thought\\nthat the little child playing about your feet,\\nwhose life and habits you are molding, may\\nbe one who shall be called to bear the\\nvessel of the Lord, which is his Word, filled\\nwith the holy oil of his Spirit, before some\\ncouncil of earth s great men, and to answer\\nfor the principles by which the world is to\\nreceive its final test.\\nBy this I do not mean that he may be\\ncalled to suffer martyrdom, although that\\nis possible but I refer to the fact that he\\nmay have the yet grander ministry of stand-\\ning up to be quizzed and catechized by those\\nlearned in the wisdom of the world concern-\\ning all that he has been taught of Christian\\nprinciple, health, disease, and life in the\\nHoly Ghost.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0087.jp2"}, "88": {"fulltext": "6oo jform, so\\nUnquestionably, this work is waiting for\\nsome select few of our young people in the\\nnot far distant future. Some great council\\nof physicians will wish to know all about\\nwhat the medical missionary physicians\\nteach, and why; the chemists of the world\\nwill wish to know the philosophy of the sys-\\ntem of dietetics which will keep the temple\\nof God in repair; and, as is almost always\\nthe case among the people of the world,\\nthere will be eating and drinking on a large\\nscale connected with all these investigations;\\nand your boy or girl may have to accept the\\nplace as guest of honor at some such feast,\\nand carry himself elegantly, for Christ s sake\\nand the truth s; for the banquet, the dinner,\\nthe lunch, play an important part in all\\nsocial affairs to-day, and will until the end\\nof probation.\\nIf a man of means and social standing\\nbecomes interested enough in what you know\\nof Christ to hear you out on it, he will make", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0088.jp2"}, "89": {"fulltext": "si 5oo5 iform*\\nyou a dinner, invite a few friends, and give\\nyou a chance to talk and tell all you know.\\nAnd if you know how to take advantage of\\nthe opportunity how to avoid giving of-\\nfense by your manner of speech and habits\\nof conduct; if you know how to charm and\\nwin by your personality, you have placed at\\nthe command of truth an instrument that\\ncan be made effective where, otherwise, no\\nentrance could be gained.\\nNowhere is the observance of good form\\nmore necessary to one who has work to\\ndo in the social world than at the table; for\\nhere bad habits may be given such disgust-\\ning publicity as to render them a cause of\\nreproach to any good cause; and the obliga-\\ntion is upon every Christian home to see\\nthat its children are so instructed that they\\nshall be ready to quickly fill any place to\\nwhich the work may call, and to stand with\\ndignity for the truth in any place that can\\nbe opened to its consideration,\\n6", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0089.jp2"}, "90": {"fulltext": "\u00c2\u00a9oofc jfortm 82\\nA home of wealth and elaborate appliances\\nis not necessary for such training. A child\\nwho is instructed in the proper use of the\\nfew simple things that constitute the furnish-\\ning of the most humble home, and in those\\nrules of good form that ought to be the\\nnatural order in any place, will not be left to\\ncarry with him into some important convoca-\\ntion careless table habits, which, under the\\npressure of a sense of responsibility, would\\ncertainly come to the front, in place of the few\\nbetter ways that he might have picked up and\\nstored away for occasional and special use.\\nIn acting out just what is in him, he\\nwill not bring himself and that which he\\nrepresents into ridicule the opportunity of\\ngiving the truth a chance to shine will not be\\nlost, while honest souls are left in the dark\\nthe breath of personal contempt will not\\nobscure the character of Christ, which he is\\nsupposed to represent. He will be accepted,\\nfirst, because it is agreeable to look at him\\nhe will be heard because no good reason", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0090.jp2"}, "91": {"fulltext": "83 5oo tfotm\\nappears why he should not be; and after\\nthat, everything will depend on what he\\nreally is and has down under the surface, in\\nthe place where he lives alone with God.\\nBut, you say, the Lord, who calls a\\nman to stand in any place, will prevent any\\ndisaster to the cause, provided his servant is\\nhonest.\\nYes, God will be able to use even hi?\\nservants infirmities after he has helped\\nthem (Rom. 8:26); i. e., added to them his\\nstrength and wisdom. And this which we\\nare considering is all in the nature of helps\\nto infirmity and ignorance. It is in the\\ndirect line of legitimate education for the\\nvery best Christian service.\\nThe honest-hearted laborer for God, who,\\nwith his heart full of love, starts out fti his\\nignorance and awkwardness to do some-\\nthing for God and souls, will find some-\\nthing to do but we are now considering a\\nwork which every man could not do, and\\nyet which some one must do.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0091.jp2"}, "92": {"fulltext": "XL\\nI must believe that the parents who fail,\\nfrom carelessness or from lack of ambi-\\ntion the holy sort, which is equivalent to\\nconsecration and diligence to give the child\\nthe best possible preparation for a good\\nwork, will be held responsible for the failure\\nthat would have resulted if God had not\\nstepped in with some special helps and pre-\\nvented it.\\nLove for God will cover a multitude of\\nsocial sins but those who are responsible\\nfor the sins will sometime have their re-\\nproach to bear. God does not like to have\\nto cover sins he only does it so as to keep\\nthings looking as tidy as possible, until they\\ncan be put entirely out of the way. Covet\\nthe best gifts for your child, give him the\\nbest possible social habits, and then turn\\nhim over to God for work, and God will\\nfind rare service for him.\\n84", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0092.jp2"}, "93": {"fulltext": "8s (Boot) jform.\\nThere are many teachings as to what con-\\nstitutes good form at table. It would be\\nimpossible for the ordinary mortal so to\\nacquaint himself with them as to become a\\nsocial success and this is far from our\\npurpose. All we need care about is to see\\nthat the habits formed are free from any-\\nthing offensive. Society is kind to one who\\nis not ambitious for social distinction, one\\nwho has something to say that is worth\\nhearing, who represents a principle, or\\nsome new thing the discussion of which may\\npossibly furnish an agreeable diversion,\\nvery much after the manner of the Athenians\\nin Paul s time so that even if one does not\\nknow all the ropes, like one to the\\nManor born, he will be received and heard,\\nprovided he does not blunder into the few\\nthings which good form has decreed that he\\nmust not do under any circumstances.\\nAmong these prohibited things are thrust-\\ning out the elbows from the side so as to", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0093.jp2"}, "94": {"fulltext": "\u00c2\u00a9oo tfoxm. 86\\npush his neighbor at table resting the\\nelbows on the table and extending the legs\\nunder it so as to bring the feet in the way of\\nthose belonging, to the guest opposite. If\\nany guest does these things, he may be sure\\nthat there will be at least three people over\\nwhom the best and truest things that he can\\nsay will have very little influence.\\nThe eyes of those who chance to glance\\nhis way will be seriously offended and quickly\\naverted if he should take up even a half-slice\\nof bread and bite into it. Good form says\\nthat bread must be broken off in small bits,\\njust when needed, not spread, but with a\\nsmall lump of butter placed upon it (pro-\\nvided one uses butter), conveyed to the\\nmouth with the thumb and finger of the left\\nhand. You will be permitted to bite the\\npiece in two once if you wish, but no more;\\nthat is, it must not be more than two\\nf mouthf uls to begin with. Under no cir-\\ncumstances must anything, such as fruit-pits,", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0094.jp2"}, "95": {"fulltext": "87\\n(SooO jForm\\netc., be ejected from the mouth into a spoon,\\nfork, or plate, but taken from the lips with\\nthe left thumb and finger, and placed on the\\nplate. Neither bread nor any refuse is ever\\nto be placed on the cloth, but on the side-\\ndishes provided or, lacking these, on the\\none plate that is being used.\\nFood should not be conveyed to the mouth\\nwith a knife, but with a fork, always except-\\ning soup, and such sauce as must be handled\\nwith a spoon.\\nDo teach your children not to thrust the\\npoint of the spoon into the mouth, but to\\ntake its contents with the lips from that part\\nnearest the handle, without the least possible\\nsound. Teach them not to lift the spoon so\\nfull that it will drip and as your boy grows\\nup into mustaches he will need to learn how\\nto take soup and sauce without defiling those\\nmanly ornaments, or else to let soup alone at\\nthe banquet. But you can teach him from", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0095.jp2"}, "96": {"fulltext": "3oo jform* ss\\nchildhood to handle his napkin so deftly as\\nto keep his lips clean, even after they have\\nput on their thatch.\\nAs to the napkin, by all means habituate\\nthe child to its use, even if it be nothing\\nmore than a square of old calico or flour-\\nsacking, hemmed, or even unhemmed. He\\ncan learn on a piece of his mother s old\\napron how to use the fine linen of the king s\\nbanquet-hall, and do it so daintily that the\\napron and the mother who wore it down to\\nnapkin dimensions will confer honor on the\\nking s damask.\\nO my sister mothers in the many humbler\\nhomes of those who love our Lord and are\\nlooking for his appearing, has it seemed to\\nyou that any of these things that I have\\nwritten are trivial or burdensome, wholly\\noutside the sphere of life in which you and\\nyour children will ever move Are you so\\noverburdened with many cares that you feel,\\nwhen the food is cooked and placed any-", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0096.jp2"}, "97": {"fulltext": "8 9 5oo jform.\\nhow, that your part is done; that the family\\nmay come just as it happens and eat,\\nsimply to satisfy hunger, as do the cattle in\\nthe field Have you thought that if you\\ncould but get through the day anyhow, your\\nduty was done Still you must meet the\\ncertainties that are before you. Your chil-\\ndren must bear a part in the closing scenes\\nof the world s history, ask yourself if there\\nis not something for you in these things that\\nI have written. They have been written with\\na most solemn sense of their importance.\\nThey are a part of the gospel message; they\\nconcern the work which some one now in\\ntraining must do before the Lord can come.\\nThe knowledge of how to prepare and\\nserve a hygienic dinner, 2s well as how to\\nselect suitable portions and decline others,\\nat a worldly banquet, may be absolutely\\nnecessary to the winning of souls in the last\\ncall to the world.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0097.jp2"}, "98": {"fulltext": "xn.\\nNothing is of more importance to success\\nin any work than conversation. How to\\nconverse so as to win and not wound, to\\nboth give and gain, is an accomplishment\\nwhich has very nearly passed into the list of\\nlost arts. And here again good form comes\\nto the rescue, and by its placid but arbi-\\ntrary code oifsets that lawlessness into which\\neven good men have fallen in excess of zeal.\\nSixty years ago the rule for children was\\nthat they (i should be seen and not heard,\\nso that a child s talk was almost unknown in\\na company of adults. This was so wrong\\nthat it has reacted in a sort of wild freedom\\nupon the part of the children which, uncor-\\nrected, develops into the adult chatter-box\\nand gossip, than which no character is more\\nto be dreaded.\\nBad habits of conversation are very hard\\nto break, and since it is by the calves (or\\n90", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0098.jp2"}, "99": {"fulltext": "9i (Boot) jform.\\nsacrifice) of the lips that we are especially\\nto honor God, by words fitly spoken,\\nand that we are to give a reason for the\\nfaith that is in us, it is not of small impor-\\ntance that we should know how to talk.\\nBegin with the baby, therefore, so that the\\nchild shall grow up into correct forms of\\nspeech, and into that regard of all good form\\nwhich shall not only give him at once the\\nears, but the hearts of the people.\\nI scarcely need to say, Do not use slang,\\nfor this is universally understood as out of\\nharmony with Christian practise but yet it\\nmay not be amiss to say that even the world\\nof society, whose laws of behavior we are\\nconsidering, would ostracize one whose lan-\\nguage was punctuated with much slang. An\\noath would be more tolerable to so-called\\npolite ears.\\nMoney, or prominence, will for a time give\\na man social passport in spite of all manner\\nof ill-breeding. He can buy a place and\\nrecognition even from those who despise", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0099.jp2"}, "100": {"fulltext": "5oo jform*\\nhim; but this is not the sort of recognition in\\nthe interests of which I am writing. I am\\npleading for that which shall gain a hearing\\nfor the custodians of a truth without which\\nno man can live, and for the reception of\\nwhich few are as yet prepared. It is for the\\nsake of the honest souls who are in the dark-\\nness of the world s culture that I am\\npleading. They have a right to know all\\nthat the Spirit of God has been sending to\\nhis people concerning that all-round right-\\neousness that makes up the sum of that whole\\ngospel for the whole man, which is included\\nin an uttermost salvation; and some tongues\\nmust be so cultured as to talk the way open\\nfor truth just as effectually as a wag can do\\nit for fun, a singer open it for a song, or\\nmoney open it for blind boorishness; and\\nthe quiet mother in the home must have a\\nlarge share of this work.\\nTo this end teach the child that he must\\nlisten when any other child is speaking until", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0100.jp2"}, "101": {"fulltext": "93 Ooot jform.\\nhe has finished; never to interrupt, or, if it\\nis necessary to give some information, to say,\\nfor instance: I beg your pardon, but, 93\\nor, Willie, if you please, was it not on\\nWednesday instead of Tuesday? Any in-\\nterruption simply for getting in a word\\nshould never be indulged. Teach him to\\nwait patiently for a fair chance to speak, no\\nmatter how great may be the temptation to\\nthrust in his oar. This should not be\\nconstrued to include those playful interrup-\\ntions in the merry tangle of words which all\\nchildren delight in once in a while, just\\nfor fun.\\nTeach him to avoid all abrupt forms of\\nexpression, such as Give me that!\\nDon t! Stop! Quit! Get out\\nYou sha n t I won t! If he never\\nhears such phrases at home, he will not be\\napt to catch them; but if he should, a few\\nlittle experiences such as he would certainly\\nmeet as a man upon entering the social", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0101.jp2"}, "102": {"fulltext": "\u00c2\u00a9ooD jform.\\nworld, with the adult equivalents of these\\nwords, would teach him that they were very\\nunprofitable. Let him find out that he can\\nget nothing in that way, and he will begin\\nintuitively to cultivate his tongue to accept-\\nable speech.\\nIt is not good form to talk at table about\\nthe physical organs, or the processes of\\ndigestion, excepting when some special occa-\\nsion should require, and then it should be\\nby the most delicate allusions. The men-\\ntion of any form of disease, or of death,\\nwould be considered exceeding bad form\\nalso any malodorous topic of any sort.\\nTable conversation should be such as to in-\\nspire every good feeling appetizing, pro-\\nmotive of good fellowship, comradeship,\\nfaith, hope optomistic in every sense of\\nthe word. The children should be taught\\nthat no complaints or grievances are to be\\nmentioned there, because such things always\\nhave a tendency to destroy relish for food,", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0102.jp2"}, "103": {"fulltext": "95\\nBoo tfovm.\\nand retard the process of digestion. A\\nchronic grumbler at the table will threaten a\\nwhole family with dyspepsia. Let your\\nconversation be seasoned with salt, is a\\ngood injunction and if the Scriptural rule\\nis followed at home, the child will grow up\\ncapable of taking the gospel message any-\\nwhere without personal offense, even if he\\nmust go into many untried places. Neither\\nwill it be necessary for him to premedi-\\ntate but whatsoever shall be given in\\nthat hour (Mark 13 n he shall be able\\nto speak.\\nI have confined myself to the Form, a\\nform which, though good, is dead, the letter\\nof the social code, which is at best a lifeless\\nthing, a burden, a barrier, often a cause of\\nheart-burning jealousy, wrath, anger, adulter-\\nies, and every sort of contention. There is\\nnothing so cruel as a quarrel carried on\\nunder the cloak of good form. The bitter\\nsarcasm of a war waged with polite words", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0103.jp2"}, "104": {"fulltext": "$oob jform* 96\\nand phrases, the tones keyed to simulate\\ntenderness and love, as society requires,\\nbut breathing of hate, makes a combination\\nin which Satan is especially manifested as\\nin nothing else in the world. Truly the\\nletter killeth. The social code is all right,\\nbut, lacking the Spirit, it is a rotting car-\\ncass. However, since it was modeled after\\nChrist, it requires but that the Holy Spirit\\nshall breathe life into it to make it an instru-\\nment for the accomplishment of necessary\\nwork in carrying the gospel to every creature.\\nIt is manifestly better to be filled with the\\nSpirit than covered with all the forms in the\\nworld but good form, vitalized, will make\\nany messenger so ready for any good work\\nin any field that he need take no thought\\nhow or what he shall speak, for it shall be\\ngiven him the same hour. For it is not\\nye that speak, but the Spirit of your Father\\nwhich speaketh in you. Matt. 10 20.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0104.jp2"}, "105": {"fulltext": "XIII.\\nEven good form may be made too bur-\\ndensome to be endured, and it is the privi-\\nlege of conscientious Christian society to\\nstrike the happy medium between this op-\\npressive formalism and the true kindly life\\nwhich can cause even the violation of all\\nform to be almost unnoticed.\\nIt is better to have the good life without\\nthe good form than to have the good form\\nwithout the good life; but it is our privi-\\nlege, and duty as well, to have both.\\nIn treating upon this subject it must not\\nbe forgotten that there are forms and forms.\\nEach city aims to be a center of social good\\nform for itself and its suburbs. Each has\\nits own little peculiarities, as, for instance,\\nits own manner of using visiting cards,\\nthe size, shape, turning of the corners this\\nway and that as signals; all of which differ\\naccording to the decree of the social leaders\\n97", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0105.jp2"}, "106": {"fulltext": "5ooD jform. 9 8\\nof a great center of social influence; and\\nyet the manners of one city would never be\\nconsidered blunders in any other, however\\nmuch they might differ, provided they were\\nsincere, easy, adjustable, and dainty. It is\\nnot, however, considered elegant to ignore\\nthe customs of the people among whom you\\nmay visit. That which your hostess con-\\nsiders good form should be good to you\\nwhile you are her guest, unless some prin-\\nciple is violated. Good form requires con-\\ncessions to even ignorance without any of\\nthe I-am-more-cultured-than-you air.\\nBecause of this diversity of forms it will\\nbe manifestly impossible for any one to know\\njust what would be considered good form in\\nevery detail the world over. As in every-\\nthing else which involves principles and\\ntheir application, it is true in this, that if\\nyou know and appreciate the opportunities,\\nand keep your eyes open, you will be able\\nto avoid serious mistakes,", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0106.jp2"}, "107": {"fulltext": "99 \u00c2\u00a9oot JForm\\nIn reply to many questions of a miscel-\\nlaneous character I bind a little sheaf of\\ngleanings with which to conclude this sub-\\nject of good form.\\nWhen a gentleman friend of the family\\ncalls, is it proper for the wife to go on with\\nher work, and not go to the parlor at all to\\nwelcome him, but to leave him to be entirely\\nentertained by the husband Or is it neces-\\nsary that she go to the parlor, and remain\\nduring his visit Would it be proper for\\nher to leave the room during his visit with-\\nout asking to be excused\\nFirst of all I wish to drop the remark that\\nthe word gentleman is not good form, as\\ncommonly used. It has been so perverted\\nand misused that it does not in these days\\neven mean that for which it was first in-\\ntended, a man of especially good manners.\\nThere are gentlemen of the cloth gentle-\\nmen of the turf the gentleman of the\\nroad the gentleman about town; all\\nslang phrases, which have brought the word", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0107.jp2"}, "108": {"fulltext": "3oot Jform*\\ninto disrepute. The compound word 4 gentle-\\nman was an effort upon the part of human\\nsociety to make distinctions which the\\nCreator had refused to recognize. He\\ncalled man man. One can not be more\\nthan a man. Furthermore, the appropria-\\ntion of the word gentleman by the aris-\\ntocracy, the fact that in the social world\\nthere is a gentleman class, has made the\\nexpression inappropriate for universal ap-\\nplication. Instead of speaking of your\\ngentleman friend, speak of your man friend.\\nTherefore I will say in reply to my ques-\\ntioner that when a man friend calls upon the\\nhusband and family it is proper for the wife\\nto occupy herself with some work kept at\\nhand for such occasions; or, if necessary,\\nafter she has greeted him, and passed a few\\nminutes pleasantly in conversation, she may\\nexcuse herself, and go to her household\\nduties; but if she can do so, it is very\\ncordial, and in every respect good form, for", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0108.jp2"}, "109": {"fulltext": "ioi 3oo jform\\nher to take her work, and with some grace-\\nful word of apology, such as any man would\\nappreciate, go on keeping her hands busy,\\nwhile she assists in entertaining her husband s\\nfriend. In leaving the room she should ask\\nto be excused, unless the men are so oc-\\ncupied as to make it an interruption to do\\nso. If she does not expect to return, how-\\never, she should make her adieus, and invite\\nhim to call again, before leaving the parlor.\\nIs it admissible for a lady to keep on\\nwith her sewing or mending while she is\\nentertaining a caller Can she take some\\nkind of fancy work with her while she is\\nvisiting a friend or neighbor\\nIt is perfectly admissible for a woman to\\nkeep on with her sewing and mending while\\nshe is entertaining a caller, provided she\\nspeaks of it in some simple, graceful fashion.\\nThis is a much better means of manifesting\\nyour appreciation of a caller than to lay", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0109.jp2"}, "110": {"fulltext": "5oo iform.\\naside necessary work and take some fancy\\narticle. You can even take your mending\\nwith you while visiting a friend and neigh-\\nbor, and it will be appreciated more than\\nfancy work. In many localities fancy work,\\nespecially for married women, has fallen\\ninto disfavor among even society people.\\nThere is a social cult which makes much of\\neverything practical. It is a fad; here to-\\nday, gone to-morrow but it has prepared\\nthe way for even a stocking-bag in the\\nboudoir of some social queen the stock-\\nings, of course, are supposed to be of the\\nvery finest texture and quality, and the\\ndarning in itself to be a piece of finest lace\\nwork; and yet under the cover of this sup-\\nposition one can take a real serviceable hose\\nand do good, practical work upon it.\\nShould the hostess offer to take the hat\\nof a gentleman caller and where should\\nshe place it", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0110.jp2"}, "111": {"fulltext": "io3 Soofc jform\\nIf he does not at once make his hat\\nat home, she should indicate where he\\ncan leave it. It is better form for her to\\nsuggest that he can hang it upon the hat\\nrack or peg in the hall, or lay it on the\\ntable, if he does not seem to know that he\\ncan do so, than it would be to take it from\\nhim. If he has been properly instructed, as\\nevery boy should be at home, he will, with-\\nout any effort upon her part, relieve her of\\nthe necessity of looking after his hat. But\\nif he appears embarrassed by it, take it at\\nonce with some pleasant remark calculated\\nto set him at ease, and place it where it\\nought to be. The proper place is in the\\nhall, if there be a hall. Lacking this, any\\nconvenient place is in order.\\nIf a man friend happens to call when\\nthe husband is absent and the wife alone,\\nshould she invite him into the parlor and\\nvisit with him", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0111.jp2"}, "112": {"fulltext": "BooJ jform* io 4\\nSuch a friend should so time his visits\\nas to make reasonably sure that the man\\nof the house would be at home, but if\\nhe fails to do so, it is the better way to\\ninform him when the husband will return,\\nand invite him to call again, provided this\\nwould be agreeable to both husband and\\nwife. It is, however, bad form to say,\\nCome again, when you mean, Stay\\naway; very bad form for the wife to invite\\nany one to call who would necessarily be\\ndisagreeable to the man of the house. In\\nthese days of moral contamination and\\nprevalent gossip, good form is a conservator\\nof good morals. Even as regards the wife s\\nrelation to her pastor, if the husband is not a\\nChristian, and, as often happens, dislikes\\nministers as a class, and makes a call any-\\nthing but pleasant, common politeness re-\\nquires that all pastoral visits shall include\\nthe husband.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0112.jp2"}, "113": {"fulltext": "ids 3oob jform\\nWhere several are invited to a dinner, is\\nit necessary for the men to escort the ladies\\nto the table or is it better for each to walk\\nout independently\\nIn relation to dinner manners, the hostess\\nis expected to decide all forms for her com-\\npany. If she wishes to make it very formal,\\nshe arranges just what man shall take out\\na certain woman. The couples will be so\\nseated that a man and a woman will oc-\\ncupy alternate places. Every woman is ex-\\npected to entertain first her own escort, and\\nthen to assist in entertaining the one who\\nsits next her on the other side, and also oc-\\ncasionally to exchange a word with the one\\nwho sits opposite. It is not, however, ex-\\npected that one will talk all over the table,\\nnor that any one voice will command gen-\\neral attention until the table is cleared, and\\nthe after-dinner program is called.\\nIf two gentlemen with their wives should", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0113.jp2"}, "114": {"fulltext": "(Boot) jform. 106\\nbe riding in one carriage, would it be proper\\nfor the husband and wife to be separated,\\nand each gentleman sit with the other man s\\nwife\\nIf married couples are riding together the\\nmost graceful thing is for the host and host-\\ness to take a guest to entertain; either for\\nthe two men and the two women to sit to-\\ngether, or for the couples to exchange\\ncompanions. It would be an exceedingly\\nungracious act for the host and hostess to\\nsit together during the ride, thus leaving\\ntheir guests to each other alone. In any\\ncountry good form requires that husbands\\nand wives should appreciate each other\\nenough to consider that they are confer-\\nring a favor by giving others an opportunity\\nto enjoy their society; and that they should\\nat least seem to trust each other to be\\nfriendly to other men and women, even if\\nthey quarrel about it when they are alone.\\nThe appearance of suspicion is the most foul", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0114.jp2"}, "115": {"fulltext": "io7\\nof all bad forms; it is, in fact, the very\\nstench from the body of moral death.\\nIs it proper for a woman to call in com-\\npany with her husband upon a man who\\nlives alone\\nIs it proper for a lady to visit a sick\\nman who is not a relative\\nIt is suitable for a woman to accompany\\nher husband anywhere. If the husband in-\\ntends calling on a man who lives alone, it is\\na very neighborly act for his wife to ac-\\ncompany him. A feminine presence might\\nbrighten the home of a social hermit, and\\nwould surely be as a benediction to him if\\nhe were an invalid, or in trouble.\\nIn visiting a sick man it would be better\\nfor two ladies to go together, provided no\\ninterested man friend or nurse could accom-\\npany them. Yet there might be cases where\\nit would be necessary, and the only Chris-\\ntian thing, for a woman to call alone, if she", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0115.jp2"}, "116": {"fulltext": "6oo5 jform* 108\\nmust, and render any necessary care. This\\nshould, however, be only in case of neces-\\nsity. The general rule should be observed\\nas far as possible, that men should care for\\nmen, and women for women.\\nWhen leaving a reception, dinner, or\\nany private entertainment, should one bid\\nthe hostess good night first before address-\\ning the others Or, if there are several\\nladies belonging to the house, would it be\\nbest to address the eldest lady first I sup-\\npose it would be the same when entering the\\nhouse. I would like to know what the rules\\nare in regard to this, if there are any.\\nThe hostess takes precedence of all other\\nmembers of the household for the time\\nbeing. If a person is required by circum-\\nstances to take an early leave, and the host-\\ness, as is sometimes the case, be occupied,\\nit is admissible to address others first.\\nFaultless manners require that if possible\\nyour personal arrangements should be such", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0116.jp2"}, "117": {"fulltext": "io 9 \u00c2\u00a9ooD jform.\\nthat you can accommodate yourself to what-\\never exigencies may arise, so that without\\nany stress or pressure of any sort, you can\\nhave time to wait for an opportunity to\\nspeak first to the hostess, and announce that\\nyou are taking your leave. Then the way\\nis open for any informal leave-taking and\\npreparations which you may have to make,\\nreserving the last word for the host, at the\\ndoor, unless indeed, as sometimes happens,\\nhe stands beside his wife at the leave-taking\\nas well as the reception.\\nShould the host offer to entertain the\\ncompany himself with music, or should the\\nvisitors invite him to entertain them\\nThis depends upon the kind of entertain-\\nment, the character of his visitors, and the\\nproficiency of the host as a musician. If\\nhe is really a musician, and has something\\nwhich he knows would give pleasure to the\\ncompany, it would be expected that he", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0117.jp2"}, "118": {"fulltext": "(Boob jform, no\\nwould favor them. A few words of intro-\\nduction, not of himself, but of the music,\\nwould be appropriate but it should be\\ndone in the most informal and unobtrusive\\nmanner possible.\\nShould one recognize and bow to an\\nacquaintance when upon the opposite side\\nof the street If one meets a person with\\nwhom she is but slightly acquainted and\\nbows, then meets him again after an hour or\\nso, is it necessary to recognize him and bow\\nagain? How should a lady do at the sec-\\nond meeting\\nIn chancing to look up and recognize a\\nfamiliar friend upon the opposite side of the\\nstreet, a slight inclination of the head on the\\npart of a woman is correct on the part of a\\nman or boy, touching or lifting the hat but\\na vocal greeting at that distance would be\\nbad form. It is not necessary to bow every\\ntime you meet in passing and repassing often\\nduring the day, although some sign of rec-", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0118.jp2"}, "119": {"fulltext": "in 5ool jform.\\nognition is always good but when upon the\\nfirst meeting during the day proper greet-\\nings have been duly exchanged, a slight\\ninclination of the head, a touch of the hat,\\na cordial glance is sufficient. More could\\nbe made very tiresome if you were to meet\\noften while about the day s business.\\nIs it good form to use a toothpick at\\nthe table?\\nIt is bad form to use a toothpick in any\\nbut the most private manner. Its public\\nappearance is always repulsive. It should\\nnever be used as an article of table decora-\\ntion. It is one of those necessary articles\\nthat can never be suggestive of anything\\nappetizing or graceful in fact, its sugges-\\ntions are wholly of things concerning which\\none should be as reticent and retired as\\npossible.\\nWhich is the better form, to use the", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0119.jp2"}, "120": {"fulltext": "(Boo5 jform.\\nfork in the right hand, leaving the knife\\nlying upon the plate, or to take the fork in\\nthe left hand, and use the knife to push the\\nfood upon it? In short, in which hand\\nshould the fork properly be held, and what\\nis the office of the knife at the table\\nThe fork should always be used in the\\nright hand, for cutting, taking up, and con-\\nveying food to the mouth, unless one is left-\\nhanded. In that case it should be used in\\nthe left hand. The knife should only be\\nused for cutting what can not be cut with\\nthe fork, and when not in use, should lie on\\nthe plate. It has a very limited service at\\nthe table. It would be very awkward to use\\nthe knife to push food on to the fork, be-\\ncause it is entirely unnecessary.\\nShould brothers and sisters call upon\\neach other in their sleeping-rooms in con-\\nnection with boarding-schools\\nThose who are old enough to go away to\\nboarding-school should come under the same", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0120.jp2"}, "121": {"fulltext": "U3 3oo0 jform.\\nregulations in such matters as any other men\\nand women must observe. The bedroom is\\nnot designed as a reception-room. It has\\nproperly only one use. If it must for any\\nreason be used as a study-room, yet the fact\\nthat it is a bedroom makes it unfit for a vis-\\niting place. It is furthermore the usual rule\\nfor two persons to occupy the same room in\\nthe school home, and manifestly immodest\\nfor sister or brother to intrude upon the\\nprivacy of these roommates. Besides these\\nconsiderations the association of brothers\\nand sisters should be upon the same plane of\\nmodest deportment as between any other\\nman and woman. This should be taught\\nthe children in the home, and practised\\neverywhere, for the purpose of education and\\ntraining preparatory to meeting the condi-\\ntions which exist in the world at large.\\nUnder what circumstances is it proper\\nfor young men and women to correspond\\n8", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0121.jp2"}, "122": {"fulltext": "Ooofc jform* 114\\nwith each other Where not allowable, give\\nreasons.\\nWhen a thorough acquaintance between a\\nyoung man and woman has developed into\\nthat association which points to marriage,\\nand when they must necessarily be sepa-\\nrated, correspondence is right. Such corre-\\nspondence should not, however, be considered\\ntoo sacred to share with father and mother.\\nAnything that can not be shared with a good\\nparent is dangerous.\\nIf there is good reason for confidence be-\\ntween the young people who are drawn to-\\nward each other, and yet who have had no\\ngood opportunity to become thoroughly ac-\\nquainted, a correspondence for the purpose\\nof acquaintance is admissible, although not\\nwholly safe. To correspond with more than\\none at a time has every appearance of evil,\\nand is too often just as evil as it can appear\\nto be. Correspondence, excepting as it\\nleads up to marriage, should be for business", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0122.jp2"}, "123": {"fulltext": "us 5oo5 jform\\nonly, as brief and formal as possible, and\\nshould stop short when its purpose has been\\nserved. A religious correspondence between\\nyoung men and women is one of Satan s\\nmost fruitful and profane devices.\\nShould young ladies at school be per-\\nmitted to receive calls from young men If\\nso, under what circumstances\\nThere should be connected with the young\\nwomen s home of every school a parlor, open\\nand public to all at all times. In such an\\napartment young ladies in school should be\\nable to receive calls, under proper chaper-\\nonage and advice from those who have them\\nin charge. Promiscuous calling would be\\nbad form, and dangerous to reputation.\\nIs it best for young men and young\\nwomen to do missionary work for each\\nother\\nThe only way in which they can do mission-", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0123.jp2"}, "124": {"fulltext": "5oo tfoxxn. 116\\nary work for each other is in each one making\\nof him and herself the very best representa-\\ntive of everything that is best and truest in\\ngood manners, according to the divine model,\\nand then leave the detail work for young\\nmen to men, and for young women to women.\\nAny man who must be led to Christ by\\nsome woman, instead of some good, broth-\\nerly man, can never be saved. Any\\nwoman who can not be helped by some\\nsister woman, or mother in Israel, can\\nnever be helped.\\nIs it proper for a company of young\\npeople to go out on a camping expedition\\nfor several days, even with a chaperon?\\nThis would depend on the character of\\nthe company. One chaperon would not be\\nsufficient for a company of young men\\nand young women. There should be\\nchaperons, a man for the young men,\\nand a woman for the young women; and if", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0124.jp2"}, "125": {"fulltext": "n7 3ooJ jForm.\\nthe company is large, there should be a suf-\\nficient number of elderly companions to give\\nthem all necessary protection and support in\\nthe enjoyment of the occasion. There could\\nbe no reason why a select party of young\\npeople, properly accompanied, should not\\nenjoy an outing of this description. But in\\nsuch a case it would be not only bad form,\\nbut criminal, for any young man or woman\\nto take advantage of the occasion to break\\nover any of the protective regulations upon\\nwhich all should agree before starting out.\\nCommon politeness and good sense would\\nlead each to co-operate with all to secure\\nthe most perfect good order in the camp\\nfrom t eginning to end, by daylight and\\ndark.\\nIs it proper for young people to take\\nmoonlight rides together?\\nA moonlight ride for a company of young\\npeople, accompanied by fathers and mothers,", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0125.jp2"}, "126": {"fulltext": "(Soofc jform, us\\nor teachers, or suitable friends of mature\\nage, would certainly be proper and enjoy-\\nable. Under no other circumstances.\\nWhat would you say to a young man\\nwho would stand around and talk with a\\nyoung woman while she is at work?\\nThat he was indulging in a very rustic and\\nchildish procedure, impolite in the highest\\ndegree, necessarily hindering and prolonging\\nthe work of the young woman, and perhaps\\ncomplicating all the affairs of the day.\\nWhat would I say to him? That he had\\nbetter go and finish his work while I finish\\nmine, and then if he has really anything to\\nsay, come to the family sitting-room, at some\\nsuitable time, and we will talk it over.\\nWhat is the best way for a woman to\\nmeet indecent remarks or actions from a\\nman? Should she scorch him, or slap\\nhim in the face", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0126.jp2"}, "127": {"fulltext": "ii 9 (Boofc Jform*\\nNeither. To take the slightest notice of\\nhim or of his remarks is to give the man\\nthe advantage. At such a time as this rude-\\nness would not be good form. The only-\\nsafe course would be to ignore him as you\\nwould the buzz of the locust in the tree, or\\nthe sound of the cable along the track of the\\ncar line. You are obliged to be conscious of\\nits presence, but you go on your way, just\\nthe same, and let it buzz or roar. Whatever\\nsuch a fellow may say or do, never turn\\nyour eyes one hair s breadth. Allow him\\nto wonder if you are really blind and deaf.\\nA word or act of even protest would give\\nhim a chance to reply. One word would\\ncall for another, and no one could possi-\\nbly forecast where it would end.\\nWhat can be done with students who\\nwill not listen to the advice of teachers upon\\nquestions of proper behavior, who will not\\nbelieve what is told them about the charac-\\nter of those with whom they are associating", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0127.jp2"}, "128": {"fulltext": "5oo jform* 120\\nUnless it is a reform school, the only thing\\nwould be to send them home.\\nWhen it is known that a young man or\\nyoung woman in school is impure in thought,\\nlanguage, and habit, what is the duty of\\nthose in authority in the matter\\nIt is impossible for any one to know the\\nthoughts of any other being, so as to judge\\nof their intrinsic character. The language\\nand habits, when judged from your stand-\\npoint, may be impure, but they may be\\nreally only the result of wrong methods and\\ncircumstances over which the child has no\\ncontrol, and for which he is not at all respon-\\nsible. In manner and habit he may be vile,\\nand yet be no more responsible as far as\\nthought and motive is concerned than he\\nwould be for having the measles. He has\\nsimply been exposed, caught it, and needs\\nto be cured. But whatever the thought and\\ninner life may be, if his language and", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0128.jp2"}, "129": {"fulltext": "i2i Boo jform.\\nhabits in the school association are on the\\nimpure level, the pupil should certainly be\\nkept in quarantine at home, unless the school\\nis like a hospital prepared to take the case,\\nand give the treatment that will lead to\\nmental and moral health.\\nIn what respect does the relation of\\nthose in charge of a school home differ from\\nthat of the parents\\nIn responsibility, during the school term,\\nthere is no difference. In point of privilege\\nthe parent has greatly the advantage, as he\\nalone is capable of understanding the secrets\\nwhich may be locked away, in the breast of\\nthe child, from any possible discovery by\\nthe teacher. The responsibility of parents,\\nhowever, never ends, while that of the\\nteacher is limited to the hours in the school,\\nand the school term. The parents respon-\\nsibility covers the whole life, and can never\\nbe transferred.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0129.jp2"}, "130": {"fulltext": "3oo jfornu 122\\nIs it good form for students in their\\nwork to eat bits of food from the dishes\\nthey are handling\\nIt is not only bad form, but a very dis-\\ngusting practise for any one to pick up things\\nlying about on plates, table, in cupboards,\\nor on fruit stands, public or private, and put\\nthem into the mouth. The only suitable\\nplace for eating is at the table, the picnic bas-\\nket, or the traveling lunch box, and that at\\nthe meal-time. The habit of nibbling is also\\nproductive of many very troublesome forms\\nof disease. Good form requires that one\\nshould be as neat and tidy in the necessary\\nhandling and preparing of food as in presid-\\ning at or enjoying a banquet.\\nIs it good form for a gentleman to put\\non a lady s skates\\nAny woman who is able to skate is able to\\nfasten her own skates, and should feel a\\nwomanly contempt for that childish form of", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0130.jp2"}, "131": {"fulltext": "i2 3 OooD 3Form\\nincapacity that would make her willing to\\nreceive that kind of attention from any\\nman. The corseted woman, trussed like a\\nfowl, can not get down to her feet so as to\\nput on a pair of skates; but neither can she\\nskate enough to make it worth while to take\\nnote of her efforts. Of course she must have\\na man to perform this puerile service for her.\\nWhat is the proper form of accepting or\\ndeclining invitations to receptions, wed-\\ndings, graduations, etc.? Should an accept-\\nance or refusal of such an invitation be\\naccompanied by a gift If so, what is the\\nmost appropriate, and the best form in\\nwhich to give it\\nThe above questions can all be answered\\nupon the same principle. The formula of\\nacknowledging invitations to receptions dif-\\nfers as widely as the style of cards but the\\nvery best good form is for each invited\\nguest in her own natural manner, in a per-", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0131.jp2"}, "132": {"fulltext": "\u00c2\u00a9oo form.\\nsonal, kindly note, to either accept, or ex-\\npress regrets at not being able to attend.\\nBooks on etiquette give an assortment of\\nstyles varying in degrees of stiffness, which\\nyou can copy if you wish, but they are the\\nmost ungraceful relics of dead form on\\nrecord.\\nConcerning weddings: in many circles it\\nis supposed that a response to a wedding\\ninvitation must necessarily include a wed-\\nding gift but to assume that such an event\\nis the occasion of soliciting silverware, dry-\\ngoods, and furniture is one of the very worst\\nof all bad forms. The wedding gift has be-\\ncome one of the most troublesome expres-\\nsions of social hypocrisy. If it could be\\npossible to abolish it, and give society a\\nchance to go back to the simple habits of\\nfifty years ago, it would be a blessing in-\\ndeed. It is a misfortune to a young couple\\nto receive even one gift that either for its\\npretended or real value would make the sim-", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0132.jp2"}, "133": {"fulltext": "i2 5 (Boot) Jform\\npie style in which they will doubtless be\\nobliged to begin life seem mean. Flowers\\nor books are the most suitable things to\\nbring to a wedding, and even flowers may\\nbe so profuse as to become vulgar. This\\ndoes not of course include those gifts that\\nwould naturally be made by the family for\\nthe purpose of giving the young couple a\\nstart in life.\\nWhat are the proper conditions and\\nforms upon which introductions should take\\nplace\\nGood form requires that no man shall\\naddress a lady without an introduction,\\nunless it be in a case of extreme necessity.\\nAn emergency, for the time being, nullifies all\\nceremony but after the emergency is passed,\\nthe informal acquaintance should be ended.\\nEvery boy should be so taught in the home\\nthat as he grows up, and goes out into the\\nworld, he will not offend against good form,", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0133.jp2"}, "134": {"fulltext": "\u00c2\u00a9oo jFornu 126\\nand bring himself under suspicion by intru-\\nding upon the notice of any young woman\\nwhom he may happen to fancy, without the\\nformality of an introduction by some one\\nof whom he will have no reason to be\\nashamed.\\nGood form requires that the introduction\\nof any two persons should be by the desire\\nof both. The slightest objection upon the\\npart of either would make the introduction\\na gross intrusion. The reasons for this are\\nobvious. Society has seen that after the\\nintroduction, anything may follow, and the\\nonly chance for a young woman to protect\\nherself from undesirable and dangerous asso-\\nciation, may be in the rigid enforcement of\\nthis simple rule of rights. The proper form\\nof introduction is that which is most easy\\nand graceful in manner for the one who is\\nto do the introducing. As in everything\\nelse, individuality should be given a chance;\\nthe spirit and manner carries much more", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0134.jp2"}, "135": {"fulltext": "i2 7 (5ooD jform\\nweight than the words. Always, however,\\nthe person who is to be in any way advan-\\ntaged by the introduction, favored either in\\npleasure or profit, is the one who is to be\\npresented to the other. For instance, Mr.\\nLane has seen Miss Mason, and has recog-\\nnized her as one whose acquaintance he\\nwould enjoy. He asks a mutual friend to\\nsecure the privilege of this introduction\\nMiss Mason has been asked the favor with\\nthe assumption that it will be entirely for\\nMr. Lane s advantage and pleasure. Miss\\nMason is gracious, and consents to grant\\nthe request. Mr. Lane is therefore brought\\nto the place where the young lady is wait-\\ning. Never should a person who is to re-\\nceive another be asked to come to be intro-\\nduced. Bring the candidate for this social\\nfavor, to the one of whom it has been asked,\\nand upon approaching, you will say, Miss\\nMason, allow me the pleasure of presenting\\nMr. Lane. Mr. Lane, Miss Mason, upon", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0135.jp2"}, "136": {"fulltext": "(Boot) jfotm. 128\\nwhich Miss Mason will bow slightly, Mr.\\nLane a little more noticeably. They will\\nnot shake hands, but will stand, or perhaps\\nbe seated, and converse for a few moments,\\nwhen Mr. Lane will take his leave, if he\\nknows what is good for him, and wait for\\nsome further recognition from Miss Mason.\\nAmong very intimate friends, where it is\\nwell known that an acquaintance would\\ncertainly be a mutual pleasure and benefit,\\nthis formula is not always necessary. I have\\nbeen giving the strict social good-form code,\\nwhich is for protection against annoyances.\\nIt would be an unfortunate social misde-\\nmeanor for any person to make the second\\neffort to receive an introduction which has\\nbeen once declined, without some advances\\nfrom the person who had made the refusal.\\nWhen a young man desires to cultivate\\nthe acquaintance of a young woman, good\\nform requires that before he utters a word,\\nhe shall frankly inform her parents of his", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0136.jp2"}, "137": {"fulltext": "(Soot) tfovm.\\nwishes, and ask their consent. And this is\\nright; and even if their decision is against\\nhim, a young man who is worthy of a wife\\nwill have that regard for the rights of the\\nparent which will make him careful how\\nhe ruthlessly breaks into the family circle.\\nHe will give himself time and opportunity\\nto win the parents, before he disturbs the\\nmind of the daughter. The observance of\\ngood form in such matters will bring a\\nblessing, and save unspeakable trouble, even\\nif it should require what seems to the heart\\nof a youth a great deal of unreasonable\\ndelay.\\n1 After the introduction should the mu-\\ntual friend leave, or remain and lead out in\\nconversation\\nAfter the introduction the newly made\\nacquaintances may or may not be left to\\ntheir own devices in following up the intro-\\nduction. This introduction does not under\\n9", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0137.jp2"}, "138": {"fulltext": "5oo fovm. 130\\nany circumstances bind the young woman to\\nany future recognition of the person who\\nhas been introduced to her. She may ruth-\\nlessly ignore him the next time she meets\\nhim without any violation of good form, it\\nbeing supposed that she has sufficient reason\\nfor doing so, and he will have no occasion\\nto complain. He must accept the fact that\\nhe has had all that he can receive of pleas-\\nure or profit from this acquaintance, and be\\nsatisfied with it, unless he can by some\\nmeans so bring himself in some manly way\\nto the notice of this young woman that\\nshe shall indicate her wish to continue the\\nacquaintance.\\nWhat is good form in dress for an eve-\\nning reception for both men and women?\\nShould gloves be worn\\nFor a formal reception, society requires\\nthat a man should wear black. If the host\\nwears gloves, the men should do so. If the", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0138.jp2"}, "139": {"fulltext": "i3i \u00c2\u00a9ooo fform.\\nhostess only wears gloves, only the women\\nwear gloves. At a wedding the bride de-\\ntermines whether gloves shall be worn. It\\nwould be very bad form to wear gloves if\\nthe bride s hands were bare. The fashion\\nchanges with reference to what is suitable\\nfor both men and women, but as a rule what\\nis known as the cutaway coat for men, with\\na white necktie, makes an evening dress for\\nany occasion. It need not necessarily be of\\nexpensive material. A great variety is ad-\\nmissible in women s costume at a reception.\\nIf she chooses to wear her bonnet, she may\\nalso wear a simple tailor-made gown, of\\nvery plain style and color, a traveling dress,\\nor even an ordinary street dress; or she may\\nbe arrayed like the veriest butterfly in all the\\ncolors of the rainbow, and still preserve un-\\nbroken the rules of good form in dress ac-\\ncording to the social code. But the plainer\\nstyle is unquestionably the better form in\\nevery sense of the word. This is a social", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0139.jp2"}, "140": {"fulltext": "(SooO jform. 132\\nconcession to the conscientious Christian\\nelement in social life, and an effort to retain\\nit; and the more truly people carry con-\\nscience into dress, as well as the more they\\ncultivate every true Christian grace, the\\nmore they are appreciated even by those\\nwho give time and thought to what seems to\\nbe frivolous in custom and costume.\\nHow shall one cultivate the art of con-\\nversation\\nFirst of all by conversing. But to talk one\\nmust know and think. Select some theme of\\ngeneral interest and importance, inform\\nyourself concerning it, then train your mind\\nto methodical handling of it; think it over\\nin colloquial form; talk about it to the home\\nfolks, study the dictionary for a vocabulary,\\nand use what you find. It is a good thing\\nto have several words at your tongue s end\\nwhich mean the same thing, or nearly so;\\nbut it is very bad form to talk book.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0140.jp2"}, "141": {"fulltext": "i 3 3 6ooJ jform\\nYou can fill yourself with the book, but\\nwhen it comes to expressing yourself in con-\\nversation, talk talk, common language, pure\\nand simple, short words such as even a child\\ncan understand.\\nThe best conversationalist is one who by\\nsaying but little himself (that little choice,\\nclear, and true) can draw others out to a\\nfree expression of their thoughts, making\\neven the slow and stammering to feel at\\nhome.\\nIt is bad form to take advantage of a so-\\ncial opportunity to air any private opinions\\nthat must necessarily arouse opposition and\\ncontroversy. Conversation should be like a\\nrefreshing stream, holding all truth in solu-\\ntion in such form that it shall be recognized\\nas sweet waters, at which the thirsty soul\\nmay find refreshment. The truth which it\\ncontains can be trusted to do its work in\\nthought and life, as the iron and magnesia\\nmay on blood and tissue.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0141.jp2"}, "142": {"fulltext": "5oo ffortm 134\\nWhat is the difference between good\\nform, etiquette, and ethics?\\nGood form contains the bare principle,\\netiquette applies the principle, and ethics\\nbrings conscience into the practise of it. It\\nis possible for etiquette to violate every\\nprinciple of both good form and ethics;\\nbut good form and ethics will always agree\\nwhen they understand each other, and will\\nmake a safe environment in which any child,\\nyouth, man, or woman may live, love, and\\nlabor.\\nNowhere is the observance of good form\\nmore necessary than during a journey. It\\nis especially a safeguard to the young and in-\\nexperienced against the designing and vicious.\\nThe rule is that the traveling dress should\\nbe of the most unobtrusive character, of\\nsome neutral color, with no showy embel-\\nlishments on hat or gown, something which\\ncan be readily shaken or brushed free of", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0142.jp2"}, "143": {"fulltext": "i 35 5ooD jform.\\ndust; and that every movement should be\\nsuch as to avoid attracting attention; that no\\nacquaintance should be formed with strang-\\ners, unless it be under circumstances that\\ncould admit of no possible question.\\nIt is bad form to stand and look about in\\na waiting-room, or to promenade the plat-\\nform, to turn the head and gaze at people,\\nor to. ask questions of any but officials.\\nThese things, trivial as they may seem, care-\\nfully observed, help to keep a hedge of\\nsafety about the young woman or boy who\\nis obliged to travel alone, while only a slight\\ndeparture from these rules will often open\\nthe way for annoyance, and even dangers\\nsuch as we can not discuss in these pages.\\nIn the matter of asking questions, the\\nprospective traveler should inform herself\\nconcerning everything she will need to know\\nof her route, etc., as thoroughly as possible,\\nbefore she starts, so as to make questioning", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0143.jp2"}, "144": {"fulltext": "(Boot) form* 136\\nunnecessary. It is dangerous to depend\\neven upon men in uniform for information\\nbeyond certain narrow limits. Do not ex-\\npect a local ticket agent, nor yet a railroad\\nconductor, brakeman, or Pullman car porter\\nto know what every passenger may need to\\nknow in order to reach his destination.\\nThe man in uniform is responsible for\\nknowing one or two things and seeing that\\nhis own end of the work is kept well in hand.\\nBeyond that he has no official responsibility,\\nand is often as likely to abuse confidence, and\\nbetray trusting ignorance, as any other man.\\nIf you are a young girl traveling alone,\\ncompelled to make a transfer across the\\ncity, never take a carriage or cab, but the\\ncommon public omnibus. If you have a\\ntedious wait before you, do not try to re-\\nlieve it by sauntering about the depot or\\nstreet, or any public places. Settle yourself\\ndown with determination to patiently and\\nquietly endure in the depot, unless you know", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0144.jp2"}, "145": {"fulltext": "i 37 (5oo Jfotm\\nsome suitable place to which you can go\\nand spend the time. Do not ask, receive,\\nor act upon any advice from any strangers\\nas to hotels, or any other places where you\\ncould spend the hours more comfortably.\\nAccept no invitations excepting from well-\\nknown friends, and even then not to any ice-\\ncream parlors or restaurants. Nothing\\nshort of a family invitation to some good\\nhome should turn you for a moment from\\nyour purpose to keep closely to the line of\\ntravel, and endure hardness with good prac-\\ntical common sense.\\nChildren should be taught in the regular\\nroutine of home life how to entertain and\\nhow to be entertained how to avoid the\\nnecessity of putting on company man-\\nners 99 by always in all relations of life ob-\\nserving those principles of politeness which\\nare summed up in the gospel as expressed in\\nthat law of liberty known as the Golden\\nRule.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0145.jp2"}, "146": {"fulltext": "Boo jform* 138\\nAs a hostess, do not overload your guest\\nwith attention. Nothing is more wearisome\\nthan to be compelled to ward off continual\\nintrusive efforts to make you happy and\\ncomfortable as a guest. See that all neces-\\nsary provision is made for your guest before\\narrival, that water for drinking and bathing,\\nwith glasses and towels, are in her room in\\nreadiness. Take your guest at once to the\\nroom appointed without stopping for intro-\\nductions or greetings inquire if anything\\nfurther is needed state the hour of meals,\\nand any other regulations which must in any\\nmanner concern a transient member of your\\nhousehold arrange to return in a half-hour\\nto lead the way to the family room for\\ngreetings and introductions, and then with-\\ndraw, leaving the coast clear for such atten-\\ntion to personal comfort as is always needed\\neven after a short journey.\\nThere may be degrees of intimacy that\\nwould seem to naturally modify these good-", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0146.jp2"}, "147": {"fulltext": "5ooD jForm\\nform requirements, but it would be perfectly\\nsafe to hold yourself to them, even if the\\nguest were your own mother, sister, or\\nbrother. If your guest is to make a long\\nvisit, everything like effort to secure his\\ncomfort should be kept out of sight. In\\nfact, all arrangements should be made so as\\nto make the visit a pleasure to all concerned\\nand this can only be done by taking him\\ninto the home life, and going on just the\\nsame in everything as if you were alone as\\na family.\\nAn invitation to a friend to visit you\\nshould be for a definite time, and should\\nnot upon any account be extended unless\\nyou heartily desire it. Not a word or hint\\nshould be dropped out of so-called polite-\\nness, which, if taken literally, would stay\\nhis departure one hour after the time limit\\nhas been reached. The sort of hypocrisy\\nthat would say, O don t hurry orf just\\nyet, when you feel in your heart that you", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0147.jp2"}, "148": {"fulltext": "Boo Jform* 140\\ncan not conveniently have the visit pro-\\nlonged, is very bad form, indeed, and a\\ngrievous wrong to your friend.\\nAs a guest, one should at once fall into\\nthe regular order of the family life as nearly\\nas it is possible to do so, avoiding every-\\nthing that would add to labor for hostess or\\nservants.\\nA guest should give no orders to children\\nor servants. All requests should be made\\nof host or hostess, and left for them to pass\\non as they shall see fit. Good form re-\\nquires that the guest shall be blind and deaf\\nto any unpleasant episodes that may occur,\\ntaking no part in any disputes from the\\nchildren up, and that at any moment when\\nhis presence could prove an embarrassment,\\nhe will find it necessary to retire to his\\nroom, take a stroll in the wood or field, or a\\nday off in town; and then when the time\\nlimit for which his visit was planned has\\nbeen reached, he will take his departure, no", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0148.jp2"}, "149": {"fulltext": "hi Boot iform\\nmatter how warmly he may be urged not\\nto hurry.\\nGive neither money nor eatables to the\\nchildren. Make no plans which include\\nthem without first consulting host and host-\\ness. In fact, the guest should propose\\nnothing, plan nothing. This should all be\\nleft to host and hostess. He should make\\nof his presence a pleasure to all, which will\\nleave nothing more to be desired. Let him\\nfind his place in the domestic economy for\\nthe time being, and fill it in just as helpful\\na manner as possible, remembering that here\\nit is as true as it can be anywhere in the\\nworld, that he who abases himself shall be\\nexalted, and he who seeks the most for oth-\\ners, finds the most for himself.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0149.jp2"}, "150": {"fulltext": "XIV.\\nFor public teachers, and especially those\\nwho are in preparation for such work, this\\nlittle book has a special message. The\\nworld will not sutler long nor be kind to any\\nexponent of truth who offends in platform\\netiquette, or in home courtesy. Accordingly,\\nI would urge my young fellow laborers to\\neschew everything in manner which could\\nproduce dislike or disgust in the most crit-\\nical, for that most critical may be the very\\nsoul to whom you are sent.\\nAs brethren in council together, cultivate\\nonly those things that can be used anywhere\\nin an uncharitable world. Do not allow\\nanything to become habitual that will call\\nattention to any part of the body or clothing.\\nNever finger the watch guard, coat buttons,\\nnor the features of the face. Unfortunate\\npractices of this nature have nullified the\\neffect of many a sermon. Many a young\\nX 4 2", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0150.jp2"}, "151": {"fulltext": "H3 \u00c2\u00a9oo jfornt-\\nman has made a farce of his testimony for\\nChrist because he stood twirling his mus-\\ntache; and many a Sabbath-school teacher\\nhas failed to hold her pupils to the truth be-\\ncause her hat was filled with nodding plumes,\\nflowers, or an elaborate tangle of ribbon.\\nGood form insists that any Sabbath dis-\\nplay is vulgar, so that the woman of genuine\\nsocial position will leave the elaborate church\\ntoilet to her servants, while she goes in the\\nof plainest of modest apparel to the house\\nGod.\\nOne great misfortune to both home and\\nchurch is that good form has been considered\\na sort of parade dress, to be laid off with the\\ncompany clothes. The home folks have\\nbeen compelled to tolerate anything from\\neach other, upon the supposition that noth-\\ning matters at home when the fact is that\\nthere everything in dress and conversation\\nmatters more than in any other spot on\\nearth.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0151.jp2"}, "152": {"fulltext": "(BooJ jfornt ha\\nThe home dress should be such as would\\nbe respectable if the wearer were called out\\nby some emergency, with no time to change.\\nGood form condemns the Mother Hub-\\nbard, and with good reason Its origin was\\ninfamous, its suggestions are such that the\\nwoman who wears it can not command the\\nsame respect from even her own family as\\nthough she were clothed with a modest\\ngarment.\\nSociety can and will reject the presence\\nof one who is rude in speech or conduct, and\\nin this has the advantage of the home; but\\nthe person who practices good form in soci-\\nety, and by a sullen, fault-finding, or untidy\\nmanner at home flatly contradicts every pre-\\ntense of refinement, shall surely have his\\nreward in the covert contempt of even those\\nwho love him; while any, however untrained\\nin the arts of polite society, who shall\\npractice those graces that make ordinary\\nduties fragrant and sweet with the good man-", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0152.jp2"}, "153": {"fulltext": "H5\\nBoo jform*\\nners of heaven, will be accepted anywhere\\nby any to whom he can be sent with a mes-\\nsage. Any awkwardness that a man may do\\nwill be pardoned beforehand for the sake of\\nthe beautiful spirit he is by the grace of God.\\nAnd yet it is well to make it just as hard\\nas possible for the world to reject you, and\\njust as easy as possible for it to accept your\\nmessage.\\nAll of which is written for the glory of\\nour Lord, and to the end that the truth may\\nbe carried to every creature.\\nThe Abiding Spirit, by Mrs. S. M. I. Henry. This book\\ndeals with the presence, power, and ministry of the Holy Spirit as\\nmanifested in the most common material things, and as needed\\nfor the performance of the most simple duties. It is safe, to say\\nthat the larger proportion of common religious perplexities are\\ntouched upon in this book; and the way opened for light upon\\ntheir darkness The Union Signal, Chicago.\\nThe author takes high ground, and maintains her position\\nwell. Alabama Cumberland Presbyterian.\\n316 pages, cloth\\nBeautiful presentation edition.\\nAddress the Publishers of Good Form.", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0153.jp2"}, "154": {"fulltext": "", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0154.jp2"}, "155": {"fulltext": "", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0155.jp2"}, "156": {"fulltext": "", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0156.jp2"}, "157": {"fulltext": "", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0157.jp2"}, "158": {"fulltext": "", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0158.jp2"}, "159": {"fulltext": "", "height": "3003", "width": "2161", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0159.jp2"}, "160": {"fulltext": "", "height": "3490", "width": "2466", "jp2-path": "goodformchristia00henr_0160.jp2"}}